3 yo blanks people who asks her name

[SweetWilliam69]

Hi everyone, just wondered what age I should start to expect my daughter to answer people when they ask what her name is? She is now 3 years and 3 months old and has never answered anyone, she just blanks them - as if the question and the person doesn’t exist. Doesn’t matter how many times they repeat the question. She knows very well what her name is, uses it numerous times a day as she refers to herself in third person a lot. I’m a tiny bit concerned that this isn’t normal.

Not sure in this one sorry @SweetWilliam69

How’s her speech generally? Is she able to express why she won’t respond?

Does she go to any Childcare? How is she there?

I think it’s probably worth doing this simple SaLT progress checker just to make sure that it’s not something going on with her language and understanding

@BunnyRuddington her speech and language is quite advanced, she spoke in long, fully formed sentences before 2.5, her understanding has been astonishing from long before she could speak. There’s autism in the family, and this “blanking” of people upon being asked a question is such a familiar trait, that’s why I’m slightly concerned.

@BunnyRuddington I should add that she answers me, but nobody else. She’s been to childcare since she was 9 months old. I don’t think anyone’s thought about it there, because she’s so advanced in her language, speech and understanding generally. Except she blanks people who asks “what’s your name?”

She might be advanced for speech but I’d still do the progress checker.

If there is ASD in the family and her speech is advanced, have read up on hyperlexia?

Let us know what the progress checker says

My son doesn’t answer when a stranger asks him this because he’s shy, I think that’s quite normal for his temperament, hes 3. Is she quite shy?

@Peonyyyy no she’s the opposite of shy!

Did you do the progress checker @SweetWilliam69?

@SweetWilliam69my daughter is the same age and until about 6 months ago I'd never say she was shy but that's because I was considering her when she's in familiar environments. In new situations/ new people I have come to realise she actually is shy, and this is now something she tells me. Once she warms up though she would appear to be the opposite of shy.

Like your DD, mine has always been ahead in speech and language, but she's 3, and so doesn't want to speak to strangers and so won't and similarly it could appear as if she hasn't noticed the person exists! Social niceties haven't quite come into play yet. They'll get there :)

@ThelastRolo20 same, my 3 year old is very loud when he’s in familiar environments with people he knows but he’s not going to answer a stranger when they ask his name and that’s fine by me. I think that’s perfectly normal.

@SweetWilliam69 could it be that you find it a bit embarrassing that she doesn’t answer and you worry that these people will think there is something wrong with her? I feel like most children this age won’t want to talk to strangers and that’s ok but maybe I’ve got it wrong!