This is going to be a doozy -
My husband has a 15 year old little cousin who is quite the flirtatious trouble maker.
A little about her - she has depression, anxiety, defiance disorders along with being spoiled and no real father figure. Her mother doesn’t really parent. She has no real sense of values or moral values.
His cousin and her mother lived with their grandmother until she passed away three years ago.
Since their grandmother passed away his cousin has latched onto him.
She’s always wanting to come to our house and will create excuses just to come to our house.
I didn’t think too much of it considering her father is absent up until the past year she has been extremely flirtatious. She tried to sit in his lap constantly and I put a quick stop to that. There’s the playful little things like a school girl and then there is the “gotta touch” “gotta flaunt” “gotta get his attention” flirtatious behavior. It is becoming a real problem. She will have “panic attacks” to get attention on her, she will become pouty, and manipulative to get him alone with her.
She is constantly trying to shove me out of the picture and will make a situation miserable just to get me to leave.
My husband doesn’t see it. I’ve tried talking to him about it and it leads to disagreements.
They text all the time.
I try to be open and objective but this girl is trouble and setting boundaries always seems to cause more drama.
Talking to her mother doesn’t work.
Any advice is welcome and appreciated.