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Can anyone relate and did all turn out okay?..

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Bakergirlninteytwo · 10/05/2025 16:29

Looking to see if anyone can relate regarding my 21 month old boy..

So I’m an overthinker anyway but I do worry myself about my son’s development. Both HV and nursery have no concerns at all and some days I don’t and feel silly for worrying but other days I do.

So he’s not saying many words regularly. The everyday ones are “Mamma” “Hi” “Yeah” “Morning” “Bubble” and “Go” then there are ones he’s only said once such as “boat” “fun” “wow” “where mama” “Goose” and many more that’s he’s said once, a lot of the time in context but they don’t seem to stick yet?.. Nursery believe he’s storing it all away and he’ll just come out all at once when he’s ready but I still worry.

Another reason I worry is he doesn’t point regularly. He will occasionally but he prefers to share things with me by bring them to me to play i.e, a book he wants me to read to him, a toy with a button to press etc. He loves sharing his dummy with me and sometimes sharing his food. This isn’t daily but often enough.

Unless he’s tired or hungry he’s generally a super happy boy, he has the normal wobbly kick off if you stop him doing something he wants or take something off him but he gets over it fairly quick and moves on to something else. I’m often told by the nursery how much a lovely, smiley and laid back boy he is. He doesn’t have any sensory issues at all, he actually loves the feel of everything. Mainly his belly button or my hair! He loves to be cheeky and do something he shouldn’t to get an animated reaction because it makes him laugh. He loves loud noises and also finds them funny which is of course very cute but I find it a little un usual. If he sees an adult upset he’ll come and give them a cuddle and he loves being around the other children at nursery. He plays side by side but not quite fully interacting yet.

I just feel his communication is a little more lax than a lot of children his age but when I’ve brought it up with the GP, HV and his key worker they have no concerns. He went through a phase of avoiding eye contact with some people but it’s now back to being perfect and no issue at all.

He will cover his eyes if a stranger or someone he hasn’t seen a lot of talks to him but doesn’t get upset. He’s definitely a slow burner with new people though.
He understands verbal instructions like “please eat nicely” “stop that please” “can you come here” “please give that to me” but if you say “go get your shoes” or “which toy is the car” he has no clue. Some instructions need a visual prompt.

Sorry for the long post but I’m wondering if anyone’s other little ones sound similar and whether I should be worried? Or did all turn out okay? Just to avoid “those” types of comments, I am not seeking a diagnosis online, as I’ve said I’ve sought advice from all the professionals, I just wanted to hear what everyday other mums have experienced and if they can relate and ease my mind at all.

Thank you :)

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Nelly44 · 10/05/2025 21:30

It sounds like it's just his speech.. I always remember the baby sensory class leader saying to me that her observations are usually good with mobility orgood with speech first, then the other side catches up.. I think she's on to something.

Everything sounds ok.. if you wanted to support his speech, have a look online at some speech therapy games you can do together.

BunnyRuddington · 11/05/2025 08:15

I had one who had a bit of speech delay and was equally reassured by the HCPs. Everything could be fine. I would suggest doing this simple progress checker from Speech & Language UK. It will tell you if he needs a bit of support with communication. If it does then come back and we can advise on next steps and if it says he doesn’t need support then that should put your mind at rest Smile

BunnyRuddington · 11/05/2025 08:24

Sorry forgot to ask, do you have a 2 year check where you live?

Bakergirlninteytwo · 11/05/2025 12:27

@BunnyRuddington I do yes, I’m in the UK. Thank you, I’ll check it out ☺️

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teaandkittehs · 13/05/2025 13:29

Mine was incredibly similar but now she's 2.4 years it's gaining traction and we've got to little sentences like down the slide. She was formally assessed at 26 months as having delay but started speaking more after that. It's tough to see someone else's 18 months old communicating as well as your older child but usually they catch up over time. My HV says by the time mine is 3 your won't know she was ever behind and as the days pass I can believe it. But I was worried at 22 months!

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