Am I cruel??!!

[melon1]

DD has been going to bed with no problems for the last month (by herself). She is 4 months old - I put her in her own room a week ago, and for the first 4 nights she was brilliant, but for the last 2 nights she just wont stop screaming! Last night I left her for 20 minutes, and in the end we brought her downstairs - she went back up at about 9.00, and even then cried herself to sleep. Tonight she is doing the same thing - we have the same bedtime routine as usual - bath, bottle, bed at 7.00pm - am I cruel to leave her to cry? If I do this for a few nights will she realise that she is not getting back up again and just go to sleep?

melon, my baby is 4 mths old too, well nearly. (13 wks). she has a spell of going to bed at a good time them changes again. i dont think they have a proper routine yet at this age. does she feed at the same time during the day every day? at this age i think they only really cry if they are hungry or tired, maybe she is wanting another feed? if you are keen for her to go to bed at the same time every night, start the routine earlier in the day than bathtime. say, wake her from her last nap at the same time, say 4pm (this is just an example) and start the routine from then. give her a feed then, bath at 7pm, then after a bath she may be tired and hungry so you would feed her again and she may fall asleep on that feed.

i think just now they are too young for cc, if she wakes, go and give her a cuddle and she might drop off straight away, without another feed.

i think giving her the idea of a routine is good, but expecting her to know about it and stick to it is too much just now. maybe in a mth or 2.

i know its hard just now. the other thing is, sticking my neck out here, they wont be this small for ever, so get in as many 'wee baby' cuddles as you can before she gets bigger xxx