I say possible in the title as DS has not been formerly diagnosed, so far we have been able to manage his feelings / thoughts and behaviours as a family and his teachers never saw it as problem in the classroom. He is 5 for reference.
Anyway we have recently moved to the states for my job and wow the deregulation is off the scale. I expected this massive change to effect him but it’s come out in such aggression, it’s becoming unbearable to be around and I’m just really lost in what to do :(
I am with him and his little sister all day at the moment but we’re doing so many fun activities, swimming, walking, trips out etc then some chilled days doing crafts / films etc. I do think he is missing the mental stimulation that school and his friends bring.
He has always been on the more aggressive side when it comes to showing his feelings but this is a whole new level, any time we ask him to simply do something or say no he immediately breaks down, says he’s going to hit us or hit his little sister, when he is simply going to bed it will end with him hitting shouting saying he hates us, spitting etc it’s just awful & so sad to see how angry he is.
there is a lot of casually going up to his sister in the day & pushing her over or smacking her, pulling toys off her.
I have tried so many things to help, I’m calm, I speak to him about how he’s feeling, how I understand it’s a huge change, that we love him, I spend time away just me and him doing nice things but it’s just met with upset & anger when the slightest thing doesn’t go to plan.
I am trying so hard to be patient & understanding as I know change is a huge trigger for anyone who has autism but this is really starting to get to me and my husband we’re both at a bit of a loss and overall just feel really sad for our little boy who’s clearly struggling so much.
Any advice on ways in which we can help or deal with this behaviour before seeking some professional advice.
thanks so much x