my DD wont have anything todo with her dad HELP??

[kezjoben]

she is 6 months and crys for me constantly when her dad has her can anybody help please as he is getting quite upset about it xx

Don't worry. My 10 mo dd used to scream every time her dad went near her. It all stopped about 2 months ago and now she just lurrvves him.

ty i hope she grows out of it x

Mine is 17 months and only wants me when DH is there. When I go to work he cries for a bit but settles with DH out of desperation . What I'm trying to say- is that its very common.

I knew someone whose ds did this. He grew out of it but I can't say exactly when. Does your dd's Dad have a beard or glasses or something that perhaps your dd is unsure of?

We have this in reverse! My dd1 2.4 only wants me when daddy isn't there. Thats because she gets her own way with him
DD2 won't have anything much to do with DH but thats because she gets more from me i.e. boob.

It's very very common in young babies and they grow out of it. It actually helps if your DD spends more, rather than less, time with your DH so she gets used to him and he can build up his confidence.

My DD1 was exactly like this and now she's a total Daddy's girl.

Normal. All of mine do/did this. If dh goes to pick up dd2 when she wakes she will scream her head off. She only wants me. My other 2 did this too.

It will change but in my experience Daddy becomes the favourite at around 2.5 yrs. Seems like a long way off I know.

How often does daddy hold her? Is he around a lot or only for a short time in the evenings? Maybe if he sits close to you with you holding her and then maybe you holding her but put her on daddy's knee. Transition her slowly maybe. Don't know if I'm talking nonsense right now as I've had a couple of beers. Just trying to help.

its mostly late pm before bed , when he comes back from work , have tried all being close etc but she wont even let him feed her she screams but when i do it she is fine ! i just put it down o me being with her all the time and only seeing daddy when she is tiered and ready for bed ! just hope she grow s out of it x

She will grow out of it!

Both my DDs used to scream if DH even went near them. It was very tiring for me as I had to do everything and he found it very upsetting.

They are 4 and 2 now and at times DD1 will prefer DH - I never thought I'd see the day! DD2 is coming round quicker though. How long it takes to grow out of it seems to depend on the individual child IME (I've asked a lot of mums about it over the years as it had me worried first time round!)

I think it helped when DH tried an indirect approach - he would start playing with bricks next to them rather than asking them to play - they soon took an interest and knocked his towers over. Also DH gives 'horsey-rides' and plays 'see-saw' unlike boring old mummy. Your DH will have a lot more to offer your DD as she gets older and requires more than cuddles and feeding and she will probably become more fun for him too.

thanks for your replys xx will just have to wait n see xx

Might be an idea to let your DH/DP see this thread so he knows he's not doing anything wrong - it can be very upsetting for them to feel rejected and a bit useless at times

Kez, dh baths my 13m ds, changes him, and plays with him every moment he can. But as far as ds is concerned, it's mama all the way, night and day. When he was 7-8m, I'd leave him with dh one afternoon a week and he howled the entire time. It's just how some of them are, I think! fingers crossed...

sorry...forgot to add (having just discussed with my DH) that it probably isn't anything to do with your DH not being able to be there very much. When my DH was at home a lot more nothing changed. The change had to come from them and be on their own terms it seems!

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