When will my 2.3 wear old stop screaming about everything

[teaandkittehs]

Hi All,

I've got a quirky and interesting little lady who started having mini tantrums at about 22 months. She is now 27.5 months and the tantrums have become more frequent although still usually short lived so far. We do a lot of activities and I dread the tantrums when we have love leave e.g. soft play but I don't let them stop me doing things with her. I try to anticipate them but her language and comprehension stage does not leave some for her to understand if I say we are leaving in 5 minutes for example. The problem to be honest is more apparent at home, sometimes she just screams about everything. She doesn't want cheese, she does want cheese, she doesn't want me to leave the room, she does or doesn't want a drink, her toy is in the wrong place, she's not allowed to climb on that ladder, etc etc screaming ensues. I'm currently trying to work from home upstairs. Her dad got her up from her nap 45 minutes ago and she's almost entirely screamed about everything he's done. I realise this is quite developmentally normal so I'm certainly not suggesting there is anything wrong or worrying about her behaviour. I'm just wondering on average when we can expect this to improve, I imagine it will be a good year or two but I guess I need some hope because the screaming is driving me mental. When she's not screaming about something, we have a great time, which is still quite regular but the screaming is becoming quite a factor in everyday life and it's bloody exhausting!

It can be totally normal and in the example you use of your DH getting her up from a nap and her being out of sorts for 45 minutes I’ve often found that a change of scene works. So nappy change, drink, snack and out of the door for a little walk or a trip to the park. You can even give them the snack and in the buggy to keep them a bit more settled.

When you say that her speech abs understanding isn't quite there, how does she do on this simple progress checker? Is she in track or does it say that she needs some support?

She passes the ages and stages but is at the bottom end of the pass mark for communication, so to speak. Health visitor agrees, all good and in the normal range but bottom end of. She's very physically adept so preferred to work on those skills for a long time but her speech has caught up but there are plenty of others her age who can speak and understand more. I think she's just very frustrated about not being allowed to do that she wants to do (climb something dangerous, hit the tv with her toy hammer) and I don't blame her, it's just quite exhausting now it's ramped up! I hate wishing her little life away but I almost can't wait for this stage to improve. We are working on getting her to say please instead of screaming and so far we are down to one scream followed by please. . . . As I said it all seems normal but it just sucks. I take her out a lot to gymnastics and soft play and the park as there is less screaming when we are out, sometimes month. But it's a pity we can't stay in and play with her toys more. We raise her mostly ourselves so she's very used to her toys because she's not in nursery 4/5 days a week like many her age are, so there is little novelty in her toys. She's also a bit young to role play, it's just starting slightly like pretending to sleep in a box or building a bed for her teddy but she's not using her toy kitchen etc yet except to dump toy food on the floor! I'm taking her to soft play this afternoon to avert screaming, it's very rainy which restricts us too as we can't even play in garden or local park.