My near six year old is a nightmare at the moment and this has been this way since starting school. I feel it’s getting worst. We are at our wits end. There is no fun with this child. It is like we are living in fear of what he is going to do next. He lost his ability to listen and has meltdowns most days. He has no siblings and he constantly goes for the cats they live now in fear.
my husband now has completely switched off and given up as he’s like there is no point we’ve tried everything from praise to reward charts time out. Nothing works in fact he’s behaviour has gotten worse.
we rarely have play dates and politely decline party invites as he is just a nightmare winding up the other kids and the parents and children are constantly saying he did this and they get annoyed. at a party he will just obsess over the party bags. So to protect him and ourselves we avoid these things like the plague as i can’t bare the negativity and it’s just not good for him to hear this stuff all the time
at school he’s doing very well academically he’s in year one but has passed all his year one assessments. He’s very competitive has to be the best. School have noticed obsessive behaviours and we are currently waiting for an autistic assessment. He’s a very clever lad and very logical. Good at maths and reading age is above average and range of vocabulary is very good.
I know he’s driving his teacher mad as she said he said to her I’m not leaving this table until you teach me as that is your job. Which I was mortified when she told me this. I’m a nurse and I would never speak to anyone like this and I know how hard the public sectors work.
he made a map of the class to escape and sneak out it was very detailed and he finishes his work quicker than others and walks around distracting others. When they try do more challenging problems with him at school he’s not happy as he will get some of the answers wrong sends him into a frenzy.
he is obsessed with another boy in his class which is too much as the other boy is struggling which I will be asking them to be separated next year
he Is a lovely boy when it’s just one on one. He’s very caring with me and will hug kiss but on the other hand he will hit me most days alto hasn’t hit anyone else.
he just seems so angry and he knows that he is upsetting us and says he wishes wasn’t like this he doesn’t like himself as he said he knows he annoys everyone. Which makes me so sad so I am trying to protect him from such negativity but when he’s out and about he just pisses people off and we have removed him straight away from situations when I know he’s started it as i don’t tolerate bad behaviour.
we have a lovely life he’s very well looked after we talk all the time and we cuddle and I tell how proud we are of him and we don’t want him to better than anyone else just happy. We have good boundaries in place limited screens.
sorry for this long post just so done and the mum friends I’ve made over the years don’t get it as their kids are always angels when we are out and it’s getting so embarrassing bringing my lad out and they constantly judge.