Ds is usually lovely at home, very loving and cheerful. And is usually good when out and about with me and dp (the odd tmeper tantrum excluding). However, we are having huge problems with him when he goes to playgroup (once a week) and when he is at the childminders.
It seems as if he doesn't like other children and often lashes out at them (hits, kicks, bites and now it seems he's started to spit as well.)
It's come to a bit of a head this week when he was described as a thug. And while I do take offence at the terminology used, I can see their point. During htis session he apparaently deliberately soiled himself - something he has never, ever done before.
Dp and I are thinking of removing from the pre-school as I don't think ds is ready yet for this level of interaction.
I'm devastated and just don't know how to help him. I'm a teacher, and am completely ashamed of his behaviour and that despite clear boundries, routines and expectations, ds is like this.
He has a good diet, sleeps well, is potty trained and has a consistant approach to discipline from both dp and myself.
Ds has now started to hit me too, when he does this I say no firmly and put him down and walk away. And while I can do this at home, out in public it is a bit harder. If I remove him from another child he has hurt, he hits me instead, whilst screaming blue murder.
I'm rambling now, but just don't know what to do.
I can't believe we have turned out to be such rubbish parents.
Anyone going through anything similiar? Or any advice? I've named changed btw, as I've several real life friends who know who I am, and can't face the embarresment of it all.