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2yo has become really nervous

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trundle · 12/05/2008 21:54

My dd has become really timid and nervous over the last few months. She's quite small and never been particularly physical. As she is an only child we have always tried to encourage her to be sociable - she meets up with her NCT group most weeks and has been spending a couple of days a week in nursery since she was 9mo and really seems to enjoy it.

However, now she's started to refuse to play on slides and climbing frames if there is another child on it - even if they are younger and smaller than she is. She becomes very shy and clingy if adults talk to here (unless she knows them well). If she hears a sudden sound outside, she panics and says "whats that" all the time.

We assume this is just a phase, but I would really welcome any suggestions for what else we could do to help her confidence.

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beckystaffs · 12/05/2008 22:00

take her to go and look outside to see if you can see the noise rather than just tell her - that way she can see for herself.
it is just a phase- though my dd1 was scared of balamory this morning and wanted it turned off

EnormousChangesAtTheLastMinute · 12/05/2008 22:12

my dd1 became unusually timid for a while after dd2 arrived (when dd1 was 22 months). it did pass. can you think of any change which might have caused a change in your dd?
more recently i have noticed dd1 experimenting with being frightened; saying things like 'dd2 is coming to get me' (dd2 is 8 months old so unlikely to 'get' anyone) and then screaming and running away etc. i'm putting this down to her first experience of getting a thrill out of being scared. i wonder if the clingy phase and now this phase are linked and if your dd will move onto run shrieking away from pigeons (or whatever).
the advice i read about clingy phases was don't push them into acting confident. if they want to sit on your knee, let them, but make sure they know then can get down and mix when they feel ready - just don't pressurise them and if they don't feel ready during that session, don't make it a big deal (easier said than done when all you want is a cup of tea and an adult chat, i know)
hope phase passes soon. good luck!

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