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Do I raise concerns about my friends toddler?

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Dottyhedgehog · 26/02/2025 10:27

Hello all,

My friends toddler is a similar age to my LO and we spend a couple of days together hanging out a week so I’ve had plenty of time to see the differences between our tiny people. Our LO’s are 19months (hers) and 21 months old (mine).

Her LG sleeps an awful lot, going to bed at 6:30pm every night and not waking up till 9am some days, she then naps at midday for 3 hours and my friend has to wake her up from this nap. She will then be getting tired again at 6pm and goes to bed at 6:30pm. Some days her LG is only awake for 6 hours a day, is it just me or is this a bit worrying? Her LG is constantly hungry and will eat anything, but is very short in stature. Developmentally she is quite delayed and only just started walking and not talking much at all.

In comparison my LO is awake early doors most days, naps for about 1.5 hours and bed at 7:30pm. Over the course of the week I can’t help but think he’s awake for about a day more than my friends LG. He has been walking for a while, talking quite a bit and generally seems more toddler like and not so baby like?

I know all LO’s are different and going at their own pace and in no way am I comparing in a horrible way but I genuinely am worried incase something is medically wrong with my friends LG resulting in her sleepiness and lack of growth? Or perhaps this is quite normal. What do people think?

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wishIwasonholiday10 · 27/02/2025 08:39

It definitely doesn’t sound normal to me. It is possible your friend is already well aware of this and seeking medical help and just not talked about it with you. As a Mum of a child with delays I find it hard to bring it up with friends who have typically developing children so I usually just don’t say anything out of awkwardness.

Wildflowers99 · 27/02/2025 21:12

I would say something. I don’t think we can worry about feelings when it comes to a child’s health/safety. It doesn’t sound normal at all.

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