Behaviour

[liseHunt]

I am at my wits end with my daughter! She is 11 and her behaviour is shocking at the moment. She is always moody, angry and so rude. She refuses to do anything we ask. She doesn't like going to sleep and screams she is not tired at bedtime. She sits in her bedroom all day won't even come down for food. She is refusing school and is just generally angry at everyone. I am at a loss on how to help her

Is she in High School or still in primary school @liseHunt?

What have school said about the school refusal?

If she won't join you for food, what is she eating and drinking?

How long has this been going on for and what help have you sought?

Just a couple more, does she have SM and what time are her devices taken from her at night, if they are?

She started high school in September. My main issue is her sleep. She refuses to give over her device and we have to physically take them, which then results in a full meltdown.
We ask for them an half an hour before she is due to Seattle down. We have now started out calming videos on her projector so she is lying down watching them.
With school it didn't start out great, she made new friends quickly but an old friend from primary school started on her. They tried to her in trouble with the teachers, having a group of girls cornering her on the playgroup to sharing stuff from when they where younger on TikTok without my daughters knowledge until it was brought to her attention from a family member.

Ok so it sounds as though she's really struggling. Do you have parental controls on her devices?

I would ask for them by 8pm and if she doesn't hand them over then I'd switch them off. We had similar issues at the same age.

Things that might help her to sleep are exercise, a weighted blanket and some music. My DD also liked the Sleepy range from Lush.

Having a bath or shower or going for a walk before bed can all help. Talk to her about sleep hygiene and why it's important

Have you watch Swiped on Channel 4 too?