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Leaving 6 week old baby

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TheJadeStork · 20/02/2025 07:56

I don't know where else to ask this... and I hope you can understand that I have reasons, and that it is bothering me a LOT. I was actually the 6 week old baby - in 1964. I had one brother, 7.5 years older. My maternal grandparents (who I loved when older) lived in Wirral, and we lived 300 miles away in Teesside. When I was 6 weeks old, my parents left me in Wirral for (I think) 10 days, so they could (allegedly) take my brother away on his own... I wouldn't have met my grandparents except briefly when I was born. When I had my first baby, I remember suddenly grieving terribly about being left for so long... and wondering how on earth they coukd do it, especially my mother. Please don't just tell me "It was different times" - I know, but this is the beginning of a neglect/emotional abuse story, the main perpetrator being my father (strong traits of covert narcissism), and I became his scapegoated child/Identified Family Patient. This really early "abandoning ", I guess is how I now see it, has always weirdly distressed me - even before I understood my family's dysfunction and the full harm it had caused. I would have been a WRECK leaving my 6 weekers for more than a few hours... I wondered what you all thought about it. Thank you x

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DorothyStorm · 20/02/2025 08:13

How do you even know about this? Were you told? Was that part of the abuse?

is he your biological father? Was your mother abused by him too?

have you received counselling as an adult?

TheJadeStork · 20/02/2025 11:44

It was a well-known and often told tale in the family Apocrypha...and yes, they're my biological parents. I've had therapy, and just entering a longer structured programme for CPTSD... thank you for replying... it haunts me, this "little episode"... getting responses from others is helpful, thank you x

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