I don't even think this is in the right section. I don't
What this is advice or just to get it off my chest.
My son is 7 and I just feel
Sorry him. He is a great little boy but for some reason generally in life he seems to be left behind all the time from the most stupid little things to the bigger things. Examples:
We invite friends over for play dates and he never seems to get invited back, I know in some cases this is due to the parents being busy etc etc but come on we all are I have 3 kids and make the effort for my children.
At school in year 1 he seemed to be dropped by his best little mate at the time. No reason for it no idea if anything happened I think it was just a case of the other kid wanted to play with others which is fine. Since then my boy latches onto one child who in my opinion is a nut job in the making 🙈 I encourage him to mix with everyone not just stick to one friend all the time. Eventually he did do this and he had better play times better relationships with peers still not in 'the click' as it were but still mixing. He seems to have gone backwards again though.
He plays with a kid outside where we live he acts way older than his years and my boy tries to keep up with him but for context they were here playing a game, my boy got really excited about something in this game and said ' oh X I've just done this!' Huge smile on his face proud as punch the other kid was almost like a teeenager and just went hmm. I watched my boys face and he just went flat I could see it, but he carried on as normal. Same kid and my boy and my other boy (5) invite him round to play him and my youngest end up playing without my 7 year old, not intentionally it just kind of happened.....again my 7 year old didn't say anything but he tried to be around them and sort of join in by playing another game by himself but he was upset inside and just went out in the garden. Putting it black and white his little brother seems to get himself included and in the middle of these things without even trying (great!) and my other son seems to get himself left out of these things without even trying.
Then this is so silly. But today I took them bowling, great time I got a strike his little brother got a strike he tried everything in his power to get a strike, I even set this bowling aid up for him and put it so he should of got a strike as he was getting so disheartened...even that which should of been fool proof didn't happen! I watched this stupid ball curve before my eyes and he just walked away and said he wasn't sure he liked bowling anymore. It sounds way over the top and I tried to
Shrug it off but all these things I'm noticing I'm feeling bad for him so I can imagine he's feeling it all and it's building inside.
I just don't get it, he tries so so hard at life in every area and seems to somehow not get very far. I feel so sorry for him. He plays with a 'friend' at school
And he's always told he has to play his friends game so I've told him to stand up for himself and say well play mine then yours or vice versa I think sometimes he tries but for the most part he lets this other kids get away with it. He comes back from a neighbors house after playing with their kids full of tears where he's been left out or treated a bit rubbish by the other child yet he goes back for more!
I try my hardest to improve his confidence I try my best to show him what real friends are like and not
I try to get him to be strong and stand his ground
I try but it's almost like he's destined to be unlucky and not get forward. I worry as he gets older and things get tougher for him how he going to cope? I am trying so hard to teach him how to shrug things off like the bowling thing it's really not a big daL it's a game. Teaching him to be more strong with friends and generally don't let ppl walk over you. I'm trying to teach him everything I can to be well rounded etc. it nothing seems to go his way and it's almost like he's giving up a lot of the time. I can see it in him he just gives up.
Well done if you read this far I'm not sure what this is but good to get it off my chest x