My little girl is 2 in April and recently I've become really concerned about her for several reasons.
She is really shy and seems to hate being around other children. She is exceptionally sensitive and will wince if toddlers run too close to her/near her face and will often look down if a toddler comes up to her face or attempts to interact with her. She is much more comfortable sat with me and will often seek me out for comfort but also happily plays by herself. She has never taken a toy from another child and will just let her toys be taken by other toddlers, although this does seem to upset her. She doesn't go to nursery/childcare (I am self employed but work in the evenings so essentially SAHM during the day) but we go to a club or stay and play/soft play everyday so she is around children her age every day.
She has also recently seemingly stopped enjoying clubs she has attended since 6 months old. She will run to the door or ask me to go and sometimes cry/try to breastfeed when just a couple of months ago she really enjoyed going. I don't think it's the activities either because if I sing the songs or do the dances with her at home she will happily join in and do all the actions (clapping, stamping feet etc.) and sing along, but she will not interact at all during the actual class. She will also chat away to me at home but if we are in public/around anyone else she barely says a word.
I am also really struggling with her eating. Food she used to love is now being rejected and she has recently started spitting food out (apples over the carpet, food spat back onto her plate at dinner time). She will sometimes go back for another taste of the same item she's just spat out so I'm not even sure she is spitting because she doesn't like the taste. As a result she eats barely anything.
I could go on with more, for example she has never been a great sleeper and recently started resisting all naps and bedtime. She just seems to love the word "no" recently and everything we do, from breakfast to naps to certain games/toys is "no no no".
Is this normal and she is just hitting the "terrible 2s" slightly early or should I be worried about her development?