dd (8) telling a male adult friend she wants to look at her teachers willy

[troublewithdd]

An old family friend who we had to stay at the weekend, just rang me in a flap. He said 8 yr old dd told him on sunday she kept thinking about looking at her teachers willy. He wanted me to know in case it was something more. My initial thoughts are it's just her trying to get a reaction (much like ds(5) saying swear words to the same friend). I thought maybe dd(8) was just thinking of the naughtiest thing she could -to attention seek. She constantly seeks attention anyway (but that's a whole other topic).
What does anyone think?

It is probably something and nothing but I would definitely bring it up with her.

I would ask her about it and watch her reaction very carefully as well as listening to what she says. You should be able to tell from that whether it was a joke, wanting attention or something more serious.

Do you think her teacher has mentioned he wants to show her his willy? And this is her way to "tell a responsible grownup"?

Or was she hinting to male adult friend that he should show her his?

When my sons start talking about female anatomy I usually bring out a book called "The Body". It has lots of pictures and drawings of the body, how it works, how food is digested, etc, where babies are, etc. There are breasts, and female genitalia and male genitalia. She may simply be curiuos.

I would be surprised if the teacher has done anything.........I will have a chat to her later. Thanks for the comments. I have never done mumsnet before it's very comforting!!

I think children of that age do things to get a reaction. I know because I used to. My mum took me to see a ballet when I was about the same age as your daughter and I said rather loudly, "Mummy, that man has a very large penis".
I think that might have been my last visit to the ballet.

thanks muumyloves lucy! Was it? (large?) Ha Ha -I feel a lot better about it all now. I have spoken to dd and she didn't even remember she said it! She said 'I was probably just being silly'
I have texted back to our male mate to tell him I think all is OK and nothing untoward is going on! He was really nervous about telling me (he hasn't got children yet- one on the way)..................

Our ds (7) was talking about his willy at the dinner table tonight, something about showing it to people. I took the opportunity to tell him that other people were not half as interested in his willy as he is. He then came out with

"Do you like looking at Daddy's willy, Mummy?"

Much laughter all round, and dd1 (13) said "we wouldn't be here if she didn't."

PMSL Elasticwoman.

Elasticwoman- that is so funny, arn't kids great!! I can't wait to hear what funny things my daughter will come out with.

Oh I wouldn't have thought it's anything to worry about but I'd deffinitely mention it to her just incase. If it's any consolation, my cousin is 9 and said the same thing about her neighbour last year. I think it's just to get a reaction, although at this age I can remember picturing people naked but there was nothing sexual about it, it was just funny iyswim?!