Disciplining 3 year old

[3yearold]

3 year old DS is driving me and DH insane. Constantly throwing toys, hitting, screaming at our faces when he can't get something he wants. We have done everything from taking away his toys, distracting, timeouts etc. he keeps getting back to it. And then on Friday the nursery tells me that he has thrown a toy at another child and it left a mark. He was on the timeout chair when we went for the pick up. I'm devastated. I don't know what to do. I would be livid if I were the parents of the other child. DH is also equally worried that we aren't disciplining enough and what if he does something awful. The only thing left to do is to smack him but we won't ever do that. Please give me some advice I'm in tears.

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Just wanted to reach out and say I'm there with you! My little one turned 3 in October and his behaviour has changed dramatically! We're being really firm with him, taking toys away, time outs etc as you say. Sometimes it feels like you can't do enough but all I can say is just stay consistent, it will be a phase and they all learn at some point. The more firm you are now, then it'll click sooner. We're having a rough time too, some days it's just draining and such a battle but we all have to learn don't we!

What have Nursery done so far to help him? Apart from telling you about his behaviour hace they done anything?

Is he due any checks with the HV or has he had any recently?

And how does he do on this simple progress checker?

And if it's just discipline that you're looking at I'd read Little Angels by Dr Tanya Byron. It's out of print now but you can get it from Abebooks

We had a period where timeouts weren't effective. We decided to make some charts and she had some pegs to put on them. The more consecutive bad behaviour actions upped the consequences to longer time outs and toys removed. Importantly the chart also had a positive side. At 3 it helped more to then reward continuous good behaviour as I think maybe she didn't see enough benefit to being helpful and well behaved.

As another poster said it is worth talking to your HV as a professional as what you describe isn't as severe as the poor behaviour we were managing