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6y old child's behaviour.

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Rie14xx · 17/01/2025 11:52

Hello everyone...

I don't know if I'm even in the right place but I need some parent advice. Ive been struggling with daughters behaviour for a year now and I've been putting off talking about it, however I thought a parent forum might help me with advice or reassure me it's a child being normal, I don't know.

My daughter is 6 years old and I started to notice a year back she had certain rituals. For example she has a certain way of saying goodbye (kiss, hug, wave, thumbs up, thumbs down, pow, wave) if its not done in her order, she goes into a meltdown and starts shouting hitting and screaming at us.
Another is example is, if she is cleaning her toys, getting her outfit out for the day, and I come in to help, I might get her socks out or help her clean. She again shouts, hits, screams and will start the whole process because I interrupted her.

Now, in the last 6 months, she has developed a fear of being on her own. She won't walk from one room to another without me. I have to hold her hand and walk her to whatever room. She will even go as far as wetting herself rather than taking herself to the toilet if I'm busy in that moment and can't walk her to the bathroom 😔

She has started randomly blurting swear words out. She's interrupting conversations. I have to stop talking completely to listen to her right then and there.

All of a sudden she doesn't like her food touching each other and she cried for an 20 minutes last night because her chicken touched her mash.

She's started saving things that I'm not allowed to throw away. Yoghurt pots, crisp packets, sticks, newspapers.

Anyway, I think I'm a little stuck because at school, well she is wonderful. Every parents evening is nothing but praise. She does her work, she's kind, caring, always checking on people, has many friends, sits still, listen but the minute she's back with me she a completely different person.

I guess I'm asking, is it me? Is it something I'm doing? I don't know what or how to help so I guess that's why I'm here for another parents advice because I'm really exhausted by it lately and I don't know where to turn 😩

Sorry for the long post & thanks for allowing me to rant ❤️

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TinyMouseTheatre · 19/01/2025 08:56

It's definitely not you OP. It sounds as though she's completely overwhelmed and you are the one where she can let those emotions out and doesn't have to mask.

In fact I would really recommend reading up on Masking in girls. We had the same where DD was a dream at school but in reality wasn't coping at all.

As well as reading up on masking I think I'd also read up on ASD, especially how it presents in girls, PDA and OCD as those little rituals could be OCD but I'm not an expert but it's definitely worth rewarding about.

Usually they have grown out of hitting and kicking long before they hit 6. Has anyone recommended reading The Explosive Child?

Some of the behaviour could be frustration due to a communication issue. How does she do on this simple progress checker?

And do you think that the blurting out of swear words could be Tourette's Syndrome?

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