4yo suddenly having toilet accidents

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My son has just turned 4 and has been toilet trained since 2.5yrs old. He's had the odd accident since but usually just a small one. Today he had a full accident he was soaked! I know one accident probably isn't too much to worry about.

The issue I'm having is that even since we trained him, he will not tell us he needs to go for a wee. I've tried loads of times to encourage it, but if I don't ask he will go literally all day without going (from morning until bedtime). So I end up taking him at certain times - morning, lunch, before dinner, etc. He's totally dry at night and has been since 2.5. Poos hes fine with and always tells us so no issues there.

Any advice? Hes been dry for months until today, but he just will not tell us when he needs to go and he starts school in September so I don't want him going all day without going! He tells me he goes at nursery but I'm going to check with them tomorrow if he actually does. He just seems so against going to the toilet. I'm trying to encourage him to drink more water (he doesn't really drink much and has been getting constipated lately as a result), but I'm starting to worry there's something actually wrong and he can't feel the need or something as opposed to just being stubborn.

My DD at 3-ish kept having wee accidents because she didn't ask to go to the toilet. I couldn't understand it because she wasn't afraid of the loo and knew how to ask. Eventually, after many pairs of wet pants and reading about learning readiness, I realised it just wasn't important to her. Your DS is a bit older so his speech will be more advanced. I'd be tempted to talk to him to try and understand what his reluctance is about. You can praise him by saying you both know he knows how to go as he used not to have accidents. You could also talk to him about preparing for school by going to the toilet three times a day when there is a break ie not like nursery, where he can go when he chooses - theoretically at least! To make it seem important, could he choose a new water bottle to encourage water drinking and new pants as a reward once he stops having accidents?

We are going through something similar at the moment. My DD is also 3 and in the last couple of weeks she has been having toilet accidents. It’s like she is too engrossed in what she’s doing and doesn’t want to miss anything by going for a wee. She kind of says at the very last minute or even when it’s too late. DD does drink a lot though.

She is very comfortable using the toilet alone, but has been asking us to go with her more recently.
she’s had a few changes lately such as a new room/big girl bed as well as her pre school so I don’t know if it isn’t that to something else.

I have HA so trying to keep a lid on that and passing that and my worries on to her. I’ll give jt a couple of weeks and maybe take her the GP just in case.

Will be watching this thread for any more suggestions

My DS was toilet trained it age 2 and started to be dry at night before 2.5 but had a really bad illness and that's set hum back so much. We finally got back on track before he turned 3 but then a major invidwnt happened and he has gone back to wetting at night and having 1 or 2 accidents daily sometimes w very other day.

I assume changes bug or small and sickness etc all play a major pwrt. Everything I read says to be consistent and not to back track. The only adjustments in made was bot waiting f9r him to tell me and just say it is timw to visit the toilet. And he has started to go by himself again very slowly getting back but I know for hum illnesses etc set him back.
I spoke to the Go last summer and she scoffed that he was toilet trained so early. We fid Elimination Communication so using the toilet is all he knows. But she told me most 2.5 year olda are not trained and I should lay off the training. Of course I don't believe her that is a joke I was touoet yrained when I was 2 and dry at night by 2.5. So she is totally wrong.

If you notice him jumping on the spot, don't ask him 'do you have to go to toilet'. Answer will always be 'no'. When he needs to go to toilet, and you notice this, go to him, take him by his hand, and say 'you're jumping on the spot (or whatever he's doing), it's time to go to toilet', then take him to toilet.
If it's not a choice, he's more likely to cooperate.
If he prefers sitting on toilet while doing his wee, then let him sit on toilet. Or vice versa.