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Why doesn’t my baby like me

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CLouisex · 10/01/2025 22:51

Long post sorry - My baby is ten months old. Up until she was around 6 months old she was so pleasant and smiley and happy in any situation. I felt like she really needed me and wanted me over everyone else. As she’s gotten older she seems more fussy and quite stern. I have been off work with her up until now, gone to baby classes every week, all the normal stuff or feeding, bathing, playing, going on walks, she comes everywhere with me, we’ve napped together, I sing to her, try and think of different activities to do with her. And she always just seems so un interested I try and make her laugh and it’s like she looks at me like I’m daft lol. She has started nursery one day a week and whilst I cried she didn’t even look back and settled straight in, which is great don’t get me wrong, I just thought she may have at least looked back for me. It’s not like she can’t do these things though - dad comes home from work she berms and he only has to look at her and she’s smiling. Sometimes her grandparents watch her and say she’s been an angel and she just looks at them like she adores them. She’s the little girl I never thought I’d have and I’ve put my all in to trying to be the best parent I can be. She has a beautiful nursery, everything a baby can want. Sometimes her dad will be holding her and I’ll talk to her and try to smile at her and see if I can make her laugh and she turns away. I know it sounds pathetic, but my heart hurts at the thought I’ve done something wrong and she just isn’t bonded to me. Hoping someone can give me some home by saying it will get better x

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
MistyF · 11/01/2025 11:57

is it possible you are suffering from post natal anxiety? Do you think these beliefs consume your or that they disrupt your day to day?

teaandkittehs · 11/01/2025 16:49

Sometimes, as far a a baby can, they kind of take their primary carer for granted. Mine was like that with me, albeit younger than yours at the time. It passed. I just had to hold fast, not get resentful, not withdraw, and keep doing stuff with her. Also they can flip flop between favouring parents so your time may come! I know it makes you feel like shit. I had to do a lot of crying and a lot of reading about it to make my peace. She adores us both now, although dad is more for fun and me more for comfort.

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