My daughter just turned 12 months and I feel at a loss for how to wean her/ stop feeding to sleep. Her sleep has never been great and she's still up multiple times per night. She sleeps with us now which was helping but she's recently been very restless and searching for boob multiple times per night which means it feels like we're back to square one with bad nights. If her dad tries to get her to sleep or soothe her she becomes inconsolable until I step in and feed/ cuddle her. She'll occasionally respond to a pat and cuddle from me but 9/10 times will cry until I feed her.
I'm aware feeding to sleep might be making her night sleep worse and while I'd be happy to continue breastfeeding, I also think she's an all or nothing gal and probably won't be content with dropping feeds. I really worry about how we'll manage weaning her and I hate to see her so upset but the current sleep situation really isn't sustainable as I will be going back to work soon and she's starting nursery. I know her behaviour is totally biologically normal but I also feel really guilty like I haven't set her up very well to manage without me. I ultimately want her to be content, secure and well rested.
Any tips would be really appreciated. Thanks.