My daughter is nearly five. When she gets cross she hits and kicks over and over. I get down to her level and say we need kind hands - she continues. I tell her to stop and am firm- I then leave the room as I know she wants a reaction and she follows me and keeps hitting. If I close the door she hits and kicks the door. I don’t know what to do. When she’s calm she apologises and gets so worried and upset that she might hurt me and kisses my hand for example if he hurt it. We have talked about using our words etc and what do do when we get cross. I have ASD and ADHD and she is awaiting an assessment. I think I was suprised that she followed and continues the behaviour. In a shop today she just lay on the floor and took her shoes off and refused to move- this also is something I find so hard as she’s big now I feel embarrassed how she’s behaving towards me. In the end I picked her up and walked out with her trying to hit me. Thing is her face is smiling/ smerk when she’s doing it. How do I stop this. Everything I’ve tried hasn’t worked and I need to nip it in the bud.
thank you so much