I don't trust my partner with our baby

[ThatOpalKoala]

Ever since my baby was born I've always had this gut feeling not to leave them alone with him. I figured it was due to my own trauma...
However, since my baby was a couple weeks old he would at her to shut up and leave her to cry saying 'she has to learn'

She's 7 months now. I slept in the spare room last night due to baby being hard work and me being exhausted...he said he was giving me a break.

I woke up to him shouting at the baby at 4am as she was making noise (not crying, just talking). I saw that she rolled over and I watched the baby monitor. She often cries when she rolls over as she's not yet used to it. Well. I waited to see what my partner would do and I saw him grab her by the sleeping bag (like pulling her by her clothes), lift her up, and put down again on her back...he wasn't supporting her head and she hit it on the matrass...he didn't even react

Am I overrating? I'm really overprotective of her so I do sometimes go too far with worrying. I just feel like one day he's going to lose his patience and hurt her. I don't know what to do.

I love her so much and don't want anything to happen to her.

I really feel like this is abuse and if he doesn't listen to me and carries on she's going to be taken away from me

From the title I was going to say that you were probably being unreasonable but it's never ok to shout at a young baby.

What does your "D"P bring to your life?

This is unacceptable behaviour!

Is your partner sleep deprived? Suffering from depression of any kind? It sounds like you’re normally with the baby at night so I’m not sure why he wouldn’t be well rested but maybe try to fix the root cause of his frustration and impatience if he’s usually a good man/father in the day time.

This is very worrying OP and I would keep baby with you at all times during sleep until he agrees to make a plan to get the help he needs and accept that this behaviour is 100 percent not okay. Keep your baby safe at all costs. If you’re worried he would hurt her, leave immediately and go to somewhere safe. You can sort everything out afterwards but never leave your baby in harms way to protect feelings.

Op, please, I implore you to leave him. Just leave him. Anyone that displays aggression towards a baby, and for that length of time, should not be around babies or children.
Yes I do speak from experience.
My (long ago) ex displayed very similar behaviours early on, they progressed. To both me and my DC. I can’t say too much about it because it would be outing, but among the injuries my DC received before I found out it wasn’t just me being abused physically, was a black eye and fingers trapped in the door.

You’re seeing the warning signs much earlier than I did, which I’m really pleased to see-but you have to act on your instinct. It’s most likely correct.

Absolutely unacceptable. If you were afraid before now too you must have witnessed more of this behavior. Imagine you were asleep and not watching. Please leave him.

Get help, support from someone you can trust.. you need another person to help you look after the baby not him., keep him away as much as possible for now and do have someone around who can help you! You need rest, support and sleep.. that way you can make good choices about kicking him out or asking him to stay away for a while...