I will try and make this as simple as I can, while I sit for another night, bright red with heart palpitations because I am so exhausted, fed up and so extremely overwhelmed, like if there was a bus outside my house, I would be under it.
I have an almost 4 year old, and we are very close, he is funny and loving but he acts like a real asshole 85% of the time.
He has been this way since around 2 years old, here is a list of his behaviour everyday.
- he is ridiculously defiant
- he is violent, to me at times and especially to his younger brother, completely for no reason sometimes, and it can be vicious, his brother is pretty upset alot of the time because of this
- one thing is never enough, he will tantrum over anything, he wants a chocolate, you give him one, he will become violent because he wants 5 more, same with xmas or any holiday
- he breaks ALL of his toys, constantly
- he throws things constantly, down the stairs and at people
- he has now started to spit in his brothers face
- he gets really embarrassed in public settings, but this leads to him kicking off instead of just being shy, he gets considerably angry
- he does not respond to discipline, he tries to barter with me, he ignores me, he laughs at me
Life is pretty bleak, tonight he pulled my hair and grabbed my cheek and pulled it and punched me in the eye, because I asked nicely for the pen he had in his hand, gentle parenting does not work. i do not have a room I can just chuck him in to calm down unfortunately, and he shares a room with his brother, meaning I have to take him out as it would not be safe, meaning he will not then settle and it's getting to a point that neither are settling until 10pm, I cant do it.
I have no idea wtf I am meant to do, I try to take toys away, I try to cancel plans, I try to discipline him, he does not care, he might cry for a moment and the next minute he forgets and its back to usual.
To the point, for 2 years he would not stop getting out his car seat, we used gorilla tape to literally stop him unplugging, he was ripping it off, we showed him a car crash video, from those old commercials, he was visibly upset, we explained calmly, like we do everyday, why it is so important to not do this, next days he does it again, we emergency stopped and he went flying (as safely as we could he is rear faced) and did absolutely nothing, next day he unplugged.
I just cannot cope with this shit anymore, whats worse is my 2 year old is now copying absolutely everything and im dealing with 2.