10 MONTH AGE GAP-IS IT JUST ME!!!!!

[ANNIE1]

There is a 10.5 month age gap between my 2 daughters (2.5yr and 20mth)and was wondering if there is anyone else out there with the same or similar gaps between their children? Or is it just me!!!!!
Am finding their ages quite difficult and would like to know how others cope.

ANNIE1

I dont have a small gap like you its 29 months but I had twins when my ds was 29 months.
Yours are at that terrible two stage which is quite hard.
What is the main problem you are having, is it their behaviour or the logistics of having two young daughters.

From experience it does get easier in some ways once they are independent etc.
Let us know what you are finding difficulty in coping with and then we can offer suggestions for coping. I've always found singing/playing loud music helps me de-stress myself.

There is a 14 month gap between my dd (nearly 3) and ds, 4. It was quite hard work in the early stages but I never had to deal with jealousy from my ds when I brought my dd home. Now that they are both out of nappies and are reasonably independant I find it really easy as they are good friends and play really well together, most of the time! They both have similar interests which makes it easier to entertain them. I think it is brilliant having them so close together.

Just out of interest, will they be in the same year at school, Annie1?

I only have one dd, but thought I should mention that I am 11 months younger than one brother, and thar brother is 15 months younger than my other brother. My mother said that the time went by really quickly, but she was really glad to have us all quickly and get the baby stage all over and done with in one fell swoop. She also said that there wasn't much sibling rivalry amongst us due to our close proximity in age. She also mentions that I was an accident.

Hi hope all had lovely holiday. Thanks for the replies.
Hilary-no they won't be in the same year at school, which I am glad about as I think that they'll have more chance to make their own, different, friends also they won't be mistaken for twins.
kkgirl-the problems are the logistics aswell as their behaviour! I find dd2 copies all that dd1 does and they seem to wind each other up aswell as all the fighting. Because of their ages when we're out they both want to walk but in most places I can't manage both of them at the same time so dd1 sits in the buggy. Don't have that many places to take them both especially when it rains. But dd2 is so advanced for her age which I attribute to the age gap so at least I can tell console myself that I have a genius child when I'm having a nervous breakdown!

there is 13 months between ds and my twins, but ds was a late developer(he's got aspergers syndrome) so it was more like 3 at once. It does get easier once they are old enough to play for 5 minutes on their own, bit like having a friend over all the time. When my lot started winding each other up I usually split them between rooms, one in the bedroom in the cot, one in the sitting room in the playpen, and one in a low chair with the tray on and gave them all a few toys I kept for such occasions. That gave me chance to make a drink and for all of us to calm down.

bethscott-how old are they? If I tried to put mine into different rooms on their own they'd scream blue murder.

ANNIE1

I know exactly where you are coming from with the logistics and the behaviour. I tried when the twins were small putting them in harnesses and ended up tied up when they both went different ways. In my situation I used to have to put them in a double buggy - that was until they were about four - because twin boy is a runner and I couldn't cope with eldest son, a runner and dd as well.
As for winding up, between my three the main problem is the eldest nearly 9 winding other two up. In fact he went for his first sleepover on Saturday and it was only then that we realised how much friction and tension he causes in the family. The other two were good as gold and hardly any arguments and fights occurred.
I try to split them up as much as possible and if I am out of the room when they start I send them upstairs to calm down a bit. When the fighting or arguing starts try distracting one of them and find something to occupy her to diffuse the tension.

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