How to know if your child is having an enjoyable childhood?

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My youngest has developmental delays and behavioural issues. She also struggles with mobility. She is a real home-bird; she likes to be at home with the pets.

We do go for days out, go to the park etc, but invariably these lead to meltdowns, complaints and upset. She always insists that she wants to go home, and then 6-12 months later will say that she enjoyed her trip to xyz. If I ever ask if she wants to go back she will always say no. I find it so hard, as my eldest (there is a 15 year age gap) loved her weekend trips to London or Scotland, holidays camping, days out to National Trust parks etc. I want to be able to give that to my youngest too, but she always hates it when we are there (but loves it with hindsight). She even hates going for ice cream or for a hot chocolate. I am worrying that her childhood will have very few core memories.

this is an interesting one, i think kids often like being at home, and often me wanting to take mine out to entertain him is cause i get bored entertaining him at home but he usually opts to stay.. i think she is just setting her boundaries quite clearly with regards to her sensory capacity and is probably more of an introvert..
any chance you can try recreate some of these things at home to create core memories like camping in the garden, or picnic on the roof, or throwing mattresses on the floor and having movie night with popcorn etc

i find my core memories are things that were traditions like every friday night was fish and chips, every Sunday afternoon a walk on the beach, and we didnt always want to go but still loved it in the end.. maybe create weekly/monhtly routines..