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Driven mad wondering is my 17 month son Autistic????

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OLLY38 · 17/12/2024 20:01

Hi,
I see things in our son which I feel are maybe autism traits and my husband things I'm being daft as he dosent see anything wrong with him.

We saw our PHN (health visitor) recently and she thinks he is developing perfectly. She advised us that only answering to his name 50 percent of the time is due to selective hearing and the headbanging in the highchair is just wanting to get out.

Our son intearcts with other children and people. He goes to creche and has no problem at all bar recently he wants to stay there when we collect him in the evening and he dosent get excited when we collect him. This has happened so far three times.

He simles, he gives eye contact, he babbles alot, he says an odd word now and again. ( mamma, dadda, hello, oh wow, makes tractor noises),

He understands what we say, he pretend plays and plays with toys the way they should be played with. He loves playing peekaboo with us. He has put a toy phone to his ear an odd time and says what sounds like hello.

He answers his name 50 percent of the time, the other times he dosent respond as he is engrossed in something, he is not fully speaking yet or have loads of words, he waves, claps, high five when he is in good form and basically when he wants to do it.

He dances, copies us now and again when we do things, brings us toys to show us.

He headbangs in the high chair maybe once or twice when we are feeding him, but he dosent do it every time and we were told this is just a tantrum and that he wants to get out. He has only done it in his highchair.

We saw him spinning around once or twice, he has walked on his tippy toes for three steps and we saw him do this twice and nothing since.

He is eating and sleeping prefectly. Looks when he hears loud noises and not sensitive to lights or sounds. I would be grateful for any comments.

Thanking you 😊

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SuperSleepyBaby · 17/12/2024 23:00

He sounds like a standard baby to me- impossible to say if he has autism or not. I have one child with autism and 3 without autism.

why are you fixating so much on autism? Is there a reason why you are so anxious about it?

skkyelark · 18/12/2024 00:15

Virtually everything you describe sounds like a typical toddler, developing well within the typical range. A little bit of spinning and walking on tiptoes is completely standard child behaviour – it's fun, that's why there are spinny things in play parks.

Young children can't split their attention, so again, not responding to his name if he's engrossed in something else is just what you'd expect. It's called single channel attention – he can literally only really focus on one thing at a time, so if he's intently building a block tower, he completely didn't notice you calling his name. It's not selective hearing the way it might be with an older child (or adult!), who hears you, knows you're calling them, and chooses not to respond.

Even the headbanging is surprisingly common – quite a lot of toddlers do it, either as part of a tantrum or sometimes as a way to settle themselves (including going to sleep!).

OLLY38 · 23/12/2024 07:25

Hi supersleppybaby,
Thanks for your response. No sorry if I'm coming across as fixated on autism or anxious about it.
It's just if my son has autism I understand that early intervention is the best and there is a long waiting list going public and even private to have him assessed.

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OLLY38 · 23/12/2024 07:29

Hi Skkyelark,
Thanks a million for replying to my post I appreciate it. 😊 I never heard of single channel attention before. That makes more sense then selective hearing. Thank you.

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