Is this bullying, or normal 4 year old behaviour

[boriam]

My 4 (nearly 5 year old) has 2 close friends. They've hung around together since nursery.

My Daughter has recently been coming home telling me they sometimes say they're not playing with her (and I'm sure it happens where my Daughter says that sort of thing too). At parties, they hang around together and often my Daughter is left out. She told me they shut the door on her in the toilet and wouldn't let her out, and then told her she's on the naughty list etc.

I'm absolutely not saying my Daughter is an angel in this, because obviously I'm only hearing her side. I'm worried because she's such a quiet, sensitive little girl and won't really stick up for herself.

Can I check if this is normal sort of behaviour for kids of this age, or if I need to escalate to the teacher? She isn't coming home upset, and is happy going into school. It just seems like the friendship is quite bitchy, but they're only 4/5?!

I would mention it to the Teacher because of the toilet incident. The Teacher can then hopefully tell you how your DD is in class and try and guide her away from them.

I'd also be try big to encourage friendships with other DC. Are you able to have another child to come and play after school?

You might want to ask MNHQ to move this over to the Primary Education section too OP, you're bound to get a few more responses in there