Is it acceptable for a teacher to point and shout at child that refuses to do as they are told?. My 15 year old ASD (with demand avoidance) son’s behaviour at school has become increasingly disruptive. He is awaiting an appointment through cahms to see a psychiatrist due to his rigid thought process.
He is in year 11 at mainstream school. He is truanting lessons and refusing to follow any requests. The school ring me daily, sometimes asking for him to be collected as they are unable to safeguard him and so that he doesn’t get suspended.
He is rude to staff and has no respect for adults.
This past week he was sitting his mock GCSE exams which made his anxiety worse and he was very hyper active after being sat in the exam room for 2 hours ( he has trouble regulating his emotions) I spoke to the school and explained this and also let them know that walking or listening to music helps calm him down. The school then decided without informing me that the best thing to do was to take him from the exam room and put him and some others into another room at break and lunchtimes (so another hour) as they decided this would calm him down.
This then led to my son becoming extremely hyperactive and defiant. The head of year asked him numerous times to sit down and my son refused. The head of year then came directly into my son’s face, pointing his finger and demanding in a stern loud voice that he sits. My son saw this as aggressive and became aggressive himself and told the teacher he would slap his hand if he didn’t move it. (Not acceptable of my son).
My son has been suspended. The school has up until now dismissed my request for an EHCP.
Any suggestions on how I can best navigate these issues? I am unhappy that the head of year shouted in his face as he knows my son’s triggers. I am in no way excusing my son’s behaviour but I believe if the school had handled the situation better then this would not have happened.
Thanks