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13 week baby fussiness

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Mags1993 · 11/12/2024 21:35

Hi, I'm a FTM to a 13 week old baby boy. He was quite settled as a newborn but has become increasingly unsettled as the weeks have worn on. He is sometimes very smiley but other days will not let me put him down, he just cries and wants to be held in a specific way (upright and facing outwards). On days like this he will not go in the pram or carrier (as this faces him inwards). He is a big baby so it is hard on my arms and back. He is very dribbly and may be teething but does this explain why he won't be put down on his play mat which he usually loves? I am anxious to go to baby groups when he is like this as I worry that I will spend the whole time trying to soothe him and it won't be worth the effort of getting out. I really struggle emotionally when he is fussy all day like he has been recently, and sometimes find myself crying along with him! Is this normal? I think this may also be due to my partner returning to work recently and me giving up breastfeeding so hormones are probably playing a part. Any advice appreciated.

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TinyMouseTheatre · 12/12/2024 20:28

If you've stopped BFing very recently then yes, you can have a bit of a dip but if you were crying every day before stopping then I'd talk to PANDAS Foundation and speak to your HV too.

As for the fussiness, how is he after he's been fed? Flowers

Mags1993 · 12/12/2024 21:41

@TinyMouseTheatre thanks for the reply. After he's been fed he either falls asleep (as we got into a bit of a habit of feeding to sleep), or he will be very windy and need bopping around upright. Its a bit of a lottery. As for me crying, it's only a recent thing, probably a combination of hormonal changes due to stopping BFing along with his increased fussiness. Is it normal to be so triggered by your child's crying? He obviously has cried before but it didn't bother me so much when my partner was off work too and around to support.

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TinyMouseTheatre · 12/12/2024 21:50

I don't know if it is normal to cry so much, I'm sorry but I really would encourage you to call the PANDAS Foundation and talk it through with them. They should te able to tell you if it's temporary or if you need a bit of support.

His fussy was he on just BM? And which formula are you using? Flowers

Olivie12 · 13/12/2024 05:38

If the baby just wants to be upright, could it be reflux? I would get this checked. We keep him upright for 20-30 minutes after every feed.

My 13 week old baby has days that he wants to be rocked to sleep/nap without any other change in his routine. Some other days he sleeps as soon as he touches his bassinet. I think it's normal that sometimes they struggle to settle themselves since they are still so little.

It is not normal to cry when your baby is crying, please get help. It is common to feel a bit down with all motherhood changes.

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