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How much should I let him hurt himself?

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MrsBumblebee · 30/04/2008 12:47

My first baby is a physically adventurous little boy of seven months. As he gets more active, I'm finding it really hard to know where to draw the line between protecting him from harm, and letting him explore the world for himself. Does anyone have any guidance on how much you should let LOs bump themselves?

This morning, for example, he was sitting in his cot playing, and I sort of fence him in on three sides - he has the bars close to him in front and on one side, and a cushion propped against the bars behind him so that he doesn't whack his head if he falls backwards. Anyway, he was trying to pull himself up to standing (which he keeps trying to do at the moment), and I decided to let him try it on his own. He got most of the way up, then fell over sideways onto the mattress (ie the one side I hadn't 'fenced off'), bashing his nose on the bars on the way down. Cue five minutes of screaming. He clearly hadn't hurt himself properly, but I then suddenly got paranoid about what could have happened if he'd had his leg or arm trapped through the bars as he fell. Should I have been there to catch him if he tumbled? Or should I let him get on with it? Any advice much appreciated.

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NotABanana · 30/04/2008 12:49

You really have to use your judgement and youe common sense. If baby is crawling towards a hot oven you would stop him, same as at the top of the stairs have a gate. Playing in a cot is okay but if he is trying to stand up and I would suggest you have your arms around him - not touching - so if he falls back you can grab him before he hits his head. He is still very young and obviously has no sense of danger yet.

BlueberryPancake · 30/04/2008 12:57

I have a very adventurous little boy who crawls everywhere. He is not walking yet (he's 1 year old) but crawls and climbs on everything. He can now climb on our sofa! and yesterday, he managed to climb in a large flower pot in the garden when I had my back turned! ANd then he cried when I pulled him off... So I know what you mean. Between the age of 7 and 9 months old, I would have him wear a hat indoors (!!!) so that he wouldn't bang his head so much. It's a fine line, but I do let him do stuff that other parents wouldn't do (like climbing up the stairs) because I know that he can do it, and I am right there behind him trying to catch him. Not only does he try to climb on everything but he has a right tantrum if I don't let him do it.

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