Devious and deliberately naughty.. budding candidate for the apprentice..?!

[rebelmum1]

Help, my dd is quite bright, devious, manipulative and does deliberately naughty things. She does not do it to get attention as she conceals her mis-deeds. It's like she's trying to get one over on you. She's only 3 and I've noticed the behaviour getting worse lately. I need a new dicipline structure that will work - naughty step doesn't work for us she just sits there happily and winds me up she says sorry and she isn't sorry. She goes there of her own accord. I'm trying behaviour charts atm. Is there a good book or disipline structure that can be recommended that isn't supernanny?

Has rebel mum got rebel girl?! What does she do that's so devious and manipulative?

We were staying at my aunts and she took her candles and screwed up the metal bottoms and hid the actual candle. She locks herself in her bedroom to do something naughty, like steal my lentils and sprinkle them all over the room. She hides her food and pretends she's eaten it, tips drinks on the floor, deliberately wets herself and wees on the floor if she doesn't get her own way. She's hell bent on getting her own way and sometimes just absolutely wont do as she is told when she knows it's a difficult time like when we have guests or we're staying at some one elses house. She does impressions of people and likes winding people up... when she was just 1 she would take her dirty nappy off and throw it at you if she was displeased..

she says if I dont' do something she wants then she will go and do something naughty!

Maybe you need to pay a bit less attention to this behaviour? And focus on praising positive stuff instead. Sorry - probably not want you want to hear but the first thing that comes to mind. Do you get a break from each other at all?
(My DS laughed his head off the one and only time I tried the naughty step btw!)

Yes i started with a chart and it seemed to be having an effect but we moved out due to building work so structure has been lacking and she has been ill with tonsilitis so we have spent far more time together than normal in confined spaces. This has probably exacberated things. She hasn't had her toys around her.