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GrrrlInterrupted · 29/04/2008 13:07

How old were they when they 1st went?

And what activities do they do there?

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blackrock · 30/04/2008 10:34

If your into reading, letters and sounds with your 2 to 3 year old, I would steer clear of anything too formal.

Playing with shapes and sounds, things to develop fine motor skills, speaking, listening and interest level - so construction, finger painting and cornflour.

Play listening games. Go on a listening walk. Listen to taped stories, talk about it.

Too formal too early, off putting to children and misses the building brick skills they need to give them confindence when they are ready for more formal activities.

Carameli · 30/04/2008 10:50

my dd(now 4.5) has been at her nursery since she was 3 and plays with lots of different toys and games etc. They have a topic each half term which and do loads of things connected with this. Like making bread and going to pizza express to make pizza. Visiting a shoe shop, on Fri we are off on a mini beast safari with them. A ranger from the common is taking us so keeping fingers crossed for decent weather. DD loves nursery so much. They also have a dance, French and music teacher there. They teach numbers and sounds and in dd's class they put them onto reading books when they are ready for them. Nothing is pushed at all, just depends on the child.
Every day she comes home with amazing craft bits and pieces they have done.
Her nursery is attached to a small school so they also go to an assembly once a week with the others. As with others here there is also lots of emphasis on manners and treating others with respect.

Sunshinemummy · 30/04/2008 10:53

DS started at 7 months and he's now 2.1.

They do a range of activities from puzzles, reading, messy play, outside play to dancing and singing. He loves it.

TeenyTinyTorya · 30/04/2008 11:22

I was home-educated, trained as a nursery nurse, and don't have a very high opinion of nurseries - I'm sure your child won't be missing out on anything by not going.

Here's some of the things you could do:

Messy play - sand, water, paint, clay, dough etc.

Pretend play - dressing up clothes, imaginary characters, play kitchen, play shops, helping mum, baby dolls

Arts and crafts - cutting, pasting, collage, painting, bubble printing, stamping, papier mache, use lots of different materials - buttons, beads, paper, fabric, you could also do sewing, knitting, french knitting, paper weaving, etc etc, just use your imagination.

Early learning - colours, numbers, shapes, letters, lots and lots of reading together, drawing, writing and recognising your own name.

Active play - dancing, singing, listen to lots of music and dance to it, nursery rhymes and songs, riding bikes and trikes, playing with balls, throwing and catching, go to the park, hopping, jumping, balancing, etc.

Other stuff - jigsaws, toys that require fine motor skills, lacing, threading, learn about animals, life cycles, keep caterpillars, go to the shops, meet other kids, building bricks, construction toys, cook together, use a computer, grow vegetables, make puppets, go to the library, play board games, go to the zoo/farm/safari park - all the kind of things you would probably do anyway.

olivo · 30/04/2008 11:32

my dd started ft nursery at7 mo; she's now 20mo. she LOVES it! most days she comes home filthy so i know she's enjoying herself. As with the others, they have different areas within her rooms; wet area, home corner, quiet room (reading etc), construction etc. when i drop her off, i can usually see what they'll be doing; today there was playdough out, paper for drawing, babies to bath and feed, zoo and farm out, play food out i nteh home corner etc. Apart from my dd having a fabulous tme there, she has learned things loads of great things; tidying up after herself, sititng quietly and listening in a group, taking turns. she loves their outdoor play equipment too.
i also feel nursery is the best choice in preparing dd as she was born at the very end of the school year and will be the youngest when she starts 'real school'.

luvaduck · 30/04/2008 11:33

torya thats really useful thanks!
can i ask why you don't have a high opinion of nurseries??? also trying to decide what to do...

scottishmummy · 30/04/2008 13:32

nuresry offers oppurtunity to be with staff group and peers in a structured supportive environment.my LO has really benefitted from the social interaction and activities and made some wee pal (i also met other mums)

i highly recommend nursery

BirdyArms · 30/04/2008 13:36

IMO the main thing that they do at nursery is to socialise with lots of other little ones. Things like learning how to take turns, that it is not acceptable to hit other children, how to make friends. If your dc doesn't go to nursery then I think that giving them an opportunity to socialise is important - something like a toddler group or having friends for tea rather than very structured actvity like dance or music group.

TeenyTinyTorya · 30/04/2008 13:41

I agree with Scottish Mummy and BirdyArms that socialisation is important, but I don't think it's best gained through school or nursery. These structured environments where you are confined with your peers, are less valuable, IMO, than real-life socialisation situations.

Luvaduck - I think nurseries have their place, especially for children who might not get valuable interaction at home. However, I think that you can easily replicate anything that takes place at nursery at home or in the wider world, in a much more meaningful way. I feel the same way about at schools, maybe it't just my upbringing

amidaiwish · 30/04/2008 13:56

DD2 is 2.6
at nursery they do quite a lot of painting, sticking, glitters.

She can count to 20
the only "formal" thing i think they have worked on are colours, so she now knows most of her colours.

most of the time they seem to be just playing with no specific focus.

oh, apart from recycling week where i get "reduce, reuse, recycle" told to me CONSTANTLY!

worley · 30/04/2008 14:20

ds1 is 22mths, started when he was 6 mths. he has agood time and isnt happy when i pick him up! he does 8-30 till 1 mon to fri.
when we had all the snow recently instead of going out in the cold the nursery teachers in his age group room brought lots of the snow indoors and put it in a massive big tray that they use for water/sand play. they all loved it!
ds1 used to love nursery too, he was 22 mths when he started and left at 4+ when he had to go to school. i picked him up early once (well tried to) and they were doing a special cooking session makeing cookies or something, he saw me come in and ran off telling me to go away!! so i had to leave him for another hour till they had finish cooking and then he was happy to come home! he must have been about 3nearly 4 at the time.

RubySlippers · 30/04/2008 14:43

"I think nurseries have their place, especially for children who might not get valuable interaction at home" -

Anyway, DS is now nealry 2 and has been in nursery fulltime since he was 6 months old

When he was in the babyroom it was lots of cuddles/sleeping/playing and that was it

he moved up a room when he was around 12 months or so, and they had more activities as the PPs have all mentioned

2 months ago he moved to the 2 - 3 yrs room, and again lots of fun activities but also "Maths and literacy" which seems to be drawing round shapes and looking at the alphabet/reading books

They also do cooking/baking

he has 2 sessions in the garden per day, weather permitting and lots of water/messy play as well as being on bikes/trikes and chalk drawing on the ground

RubySlippers · 30/04/2008 14:44

oh, and they have a story of the day and singing which is very sweet

blithedance · 30/04/2008 15:27

Grrl - my DS goes to a playgroup three morngings a week (2.5 hour session), he is just 4. He's essentially still at home with me (I don't work outside home) but he does get some of the socialisation and easing into a structured environment. They do lovely activities and we have all made friends through birthday parties, etc. Would be an alternative to nursery.

ProfYaffle · 30/04/2008 15:33

dd1 is 4, she'll be leaving nursery in September to start school. Her nursery started more formal number/letter work last September in preparation for school.

Marne · 30/04/2008 17:56

Dd started when she was 3, she's now 4. She started learning numbers, letters etc as soon as she started, she is now learnig to read and write. She spend's most of the day learning through play, gardening, cooking craft etc and twice a week her and 3 others have half an hour learning to read.

I get alot of paintings, sticking and dough objects sent home with her each week

This week a bee keeper came in to talk about honey and how its made, sometimes they have a chef come to cook bread and cakes with them.

mumofhelen · 30/04/2008 18:16

If I may quote:

Messy play - sand, water, paint, clay, dough etc.

Pretend play - dressing up clothes, imaginary characters, play kitchen, play shops, helping mum, baby dolls

Arts and crafts - cutting, pasting, collage, painting, bubble printing, stamping, papier mache, use lots of different materials - buttons, beads, paper, fabric, you could also do sewing, knitting, french knitting, paper weaving, etc etc, just use your imagination.

Early learning - colours, numbers, shapes, letters, lots and lots of reading together, drawing, writing and recognising your own name.

Active play - dancing, singing, listen to lots of music and dance to it, nursery rhymes and songs, riding bikes and trikes, playing with balls, throwing and catching, go to the park, hopping, jumping, balancing, etc.

Other stuff - jigsaws, toys that require fine motor skills, lacing, threading, learn about animals, life cycles, keep caterpillars, go to the shops, meet other kids, building bricks, construction toys, cook together, use a computer, grow vegetables, make puppets, go to the library, play board games, go to the zoo/farm/safari park.

The above list are the types of things good nurseries do.

If you can do them at home, then I would not send your child to nursery.

Unfortunately, for one reason or another, not all mums can provide the opportunities as mentioned above. It's great for those who can, but for those who can't, nursery or childminder is the next best thing.

No nursery or childminder can 'beat' or 'better' a mum who can do the above list. A mum's one-to-one attention is certainly the best for under 3s.

My dd started nursery at 2 years old initially mornings only, now full-time from 9:00 to 15:15 Monday to Friday. I believe, on balance, I am doing the 'right' thing for me, my dd and the family as a whole.

FrannyandZooey · 30/04/2008 18:20

3 and a bit (can't remember)

he mostly does sand and water as those are his favourites (always available as free play activity)
there is always a craft activity eg sticking but he doesn't often want to do it
there is always free painting - ditto, he isn't fussed
they sometimes get out dough or playdough or some other form of messy play

in other room they have things like cars, jigsaws, construction, sometimes a small climbing frame
in home corner usually a role play activity set up eg last week was vets - the staff role play with the children

near the end they have a drink and snack, story time, then a few songs

in theory they go out in the yard most sessions and have bikes, balls etc, but IME this does not happen most days

bogie · 30/04/2008 18:23

Ds was 18 months.
They play craft things, dressing up, tumble tots, singing, reading, learning all his numbers shapes ect, jigsaws, they have a sheltered outside play bit so they play outside everyday, they go to the park/castle/soft play every thursday, he has been on 3 trips this (snowdome for sledging, the safari park and the farm/adventure place) year and has another one booked for a few weeks time.

His nursery is brilliant he loves it we love it.

bossybritches · 30/04/2008 21:10

Blueshoes

"This is because a day nursery tends to cater for younger children whereas a school nursery tends to cater for older children."

Please can I beg to differ???!!

Drilling letters/numbers into a child is NOT what early years is about, IMHO it's encouraging them to grow at their own pace & letting them develop as they are interested, if that involves books etc then great but otherwise we wait tey have plenty of time to larn. it is NOT a requirement for reception!!

Our day nursery (& many others) is subject to the same OFSTED crap requirements as any other school nursery or pre-school.

What a daycare nursery will offer that a school nursery won't is a less structured but still stimulating learning through play environment. The younger children will get the same but more age appropriate & in a more homely environment.

Basically I would say to any Mum go & look at what is available in your area, whether it's CM's/ day nursery/ school nursery, or pre-school. It comes down to your specific requirements as a family (SAHM or working parent) but more importantly what YOUR child needs for the stage they are at. if your instinct says "noooooo" don't go there- if you think "yes I like this place" then chances are your child (& therefore you!) will be happy.

clambers off soapbox

bossybritches · 30/04/2008 21:43

can I add the typos are my fingers not my brain not knowing how to spell!!!

frecklyspeckly · 30/04/2008 22:06

I just wanted to say my dd nursery are so lovely - they always keep my dd happy -called me up today to say that seeing how she spends so much time in pets corner staring at the rabbit and talking to him could she bring in some veg scraps to feed him, because they think she would enjoy that. Little things like noticing what things she really gets enjoyment from and calling you up to say make such a difference.
In fact giving her the opportunity to learn how to care for and nurture things is something they seem to do a lot of - she bring home plants etc she has planted.

ouryve · 30/04/2008 23:31

DS1 started just after his 3rd birthday. He paints, gets dirty, draws, gets dirty, sings, gets dirty, rides bikes, gets dirty, plays on teh computer, gets dirty, writes with the reception kids, gets dirty, gets wet, gets dirty, bakes, gets dirty, tortures the pet rabbit, gets dirty...

He has a blast.

TeenyTinyTorya · 01/05/2008 00:06

Ruby Slippers - why the face at this statement?

"I think nurseries have their place, especially for children who might not get valuable interaction at home"

As mumofhelen very aptly put it,

The above list are the types of things good nurseries do. If you can do them at home, then I would not send your child to nursery. Unfortunately, for one reason or another, not all mums can provide the opportunities as mentioned above. It's great for those who can, but for those who can't, nursery or childminder is the next best thing. No nursery or childminder can 'beat' or 'better' a mum who can do the above list. A mum's one-to-one attention is certainly the best for under 3s.

When I worked in nurseries, there were children whose parents could not read or write, and who didn't have the ability or interest to play with them at home. That's when nursery can be especially valuable. Other people may need nursery as a form of childcare. However, I don't see nursery as being particularly brilliant, it's something that's there for you to use if you want to, but it's not the only way to occupy a pre-school aged child.

CJMommy · 01/05/2008 00:58

DS currently 3.5 months old. Is booked into nursery 5 days a week 8am-6pm from september as I have to work full-time! I would love nothing more than to stay at home with him until he is at least a year old but it is not financially viable...does this make me a wicked parent? feeling very guilty! Should this be a new thread?