How do i get ds2 back in his cot,without controlled crying

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ds2,14 months will not sleep in his cot at all anymore,he used to just wake about 4am,but now will not go down at all,he will sleep all night in my bed ,but cant cope with clinging to the edge every night
any tips

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Sounds like tough love is needed. i.e. you may have to leave him to cry for a bit, going back in intermittently to reassure him.

But if you don't want to do this, then I'm afraid I don't have many other suggestions...

Put his favourite toys/teddies in the cot?
Play a reassuring lullaby when you put him down?
Tell him you'll be just outside?

Our DS1 got more difficult at settling in his cot around this age, but we did two nights of controlled crying and he's been happy as larry there ever since.

I went through this when DD was 11 months. We had just got into a real habit of bringing her into bed, which she strongly resisted breaking!

Like you I didn't want to leave her to cry.

What I did was pick a weekend when DH was around, so I knew I could catch up on lost sleep during the day. Then on the Friday night I refused to let DD come into our bed. Just fed her, cuddled her, walked around her room with her, until she finally was so exhausted she went into her cot. She woke up a few times in the night and same thing again; I just wouldn't give in. And the reason I could face it was I KNEW I could sleep in the day on Saturday while DH had her.

Anyway, it only took a few days (3 I think? or 4?) and then we were back into a routine of her being in her cot.

Hope whatever you try works for you.

thanks for tips ,looks like controlled crying is the only way,it breaks my heart to hear him cry like that,will try it at the weekend

Sorry, I wasn't clear. DD wasn't crying during the process. Only when I tried to put her down! But then I'd pick her up again etc; anything except take her into our bed. Cos I'm a softie. But it worked - we got there without tears.

thanks annapx will try it, wish me luck

I couldn't do controlled crying either, but the trouble with pick up / put down is that they then expect to be picked up every time they cry. Net result for me was that it just changed the problem into a different one..
So after that, I did something else.
Basically I didn't pick up. I made myself a nest of cushions next to his cot, then when he woke, just sat there next to him and put a reassuring hand on his tummy and softly hummed a tune. If he'd got up, I'd gently lay him down and then repeat until he was too tired to resist.
The first few times I had to lay him back down about fifty times and nearly gave in as his screaming was awful - but I did stick with it and though it took a few days it really did work. Though he was screeching to start with, I felt okay with it, as I was right there caring for him, even if he didn't like it! To be honest, in the long term it saved my sanity and it doesn't seem to have done him any harm. He still likes to take me on if he doesn't like something...

Did something similar to smee - patted and shhed dd in her cot until she went to sleep, and then a little less every few nights - we decided to take it quite slowly, and it does work for us - she's a bit disrupted because of holidays, weddings, lots of strange people and some new molars right now, so we've had to restart a bit. Have you seen the No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley? It's really good if you don't want to do cc.