Incessant whinging - please suggest some strategies before I lose it!

[Weegle]

That's it!

DS nearly 23 months and we can have days (like today) where he just whines and whinges from the moment he's up. It gets under my skin and I can feel myself getting really wound up.

I've tried ignoring - it just builds to a massive crescendo

I've tried saying "ask nicely" and that works but it doesn't stop his first course of action being whinging

I try distraction where I can but that basically means me being at his sole whim all day

It drives me crazy! And I end up pretending to be nice to him through gritted teeth when really I want to screech "shut up, shut up NOW"

Help! Is it normal? Is it a phase that passes or "him" and how do you deal with this?

Can't help Weegle, other than to let you know that you are not alone....DS2 (same age) does that too.

Will watch this space with interest

(BTW - you are doing better than me - I have been known to screech "shut up" at him )

DD1 is 4 and half nearly and still often begins with whinging, just with words sometimes too, DD2 who is 21 mths tends to screech at such a piercing level it makes you wince, I am hoping they will eventually grow out of it, but it's a vague hope. Just try not to beat yourself up when you do end up screaming SHUT UP< JUST SHUT UP, in their faces and making them cry

my ds does this too and he 2.6 now... some days he just seems to get out the wrong side of the bed and starts whinging before he is even out of his bedroom!!

"Can't hear ytou, too loud, sorry, can't hear you, speak nicely or I can't hear you..."

Difficult age though

I often tell DS 'I cant cuddle you till you stop moaning'
or
'I cant hear you, say it nicely'

never works lol

HEHE, Colditz, I try that sometimes, "If you don't use proper words I can't hear you" said extremely loudly over top of whinging, or alternatively if they don't talk, "I can't hear whingey voices...."

Sometimes with dd1 I repeat, "Pardon??" until she says it properly, like I do when she doesn't say please, or similar.

oh phew - when I see all my friend's little ones I rarely hear them whinge (or maybe I'm just so focused on stopping mine?!)

I shall try Colditz's/2point4's mantra... right now!

"I can't hear you when you are whinging, you need to talk in a normal voice"

can so relate to this, i have a really low tolerance to my ds whinging some days!!!! Don't know if it would help, but I sometimes do the whole whiney thing back to him, but kind of jokey way, which usually ends up with both of us laughing. Just another little strategy to add to the many mentioned here. None of 'em work all the time, just have to pick your weapon. (Do try to resist bloody great kick up the pants tho )!!!

As in I do, not you should....well obviously you should but....oh hopefully you know what I mean. that sometimes when you picking my weapon, I might have to try really hard to resist the urge to do said thing!!! he he he off to pickle brain.

when you picking my weapon....what the hell am I on this morning? please excuse complete load of babbling nonesense, caused by serious overexposure to whinging and whining!!!!!!!!!!!

Weegle, I bet if you watch closely you will notice that your ds does not do it so much when other people are around so he probably looks perfect to them too.

Dd is a great whinger (3.5). This morning after I would not let her wear a [articular pair of tights, all I heard was "mummymummymummymummy" punctuated by screams and foot stamping. I tried being reasonable, then I tried ignoring and then I tried being angry (not ranting but firm) and then I just walked out of the room that she was in and refused to communicate with her until she stopped. That worked.

I do sympathise - there is nothing that gets under your skin quite like the sound of your child whining.

Got a 22 month that does this. Not all the time thankfully. It's usually accompanied by him clinging onto my legs then when I refuse to capitulate to whatever it is he is demanding, he sits or lies on the floor.
I'm quite impressed because he's obviously had some training somewhere that has taught him how to hold his body so that it is impossible to pick him up or keep hold of him.
I try all sorts - tickling, distraction, ignoring him. All of which work some of the time, but sometimes nothing works.
You're not alone!