11 year old daughter horrendous behaviour

[OneRosePanda]

Sorry for it being long! Since my daughter has started secondary it's like she's a different person! She's always found school difficult but this is to a new level! She's on her 2nd suspension, multiple isolations and detention. Her attitude is she don't care what anyone thinks or says. Its uspeseting as I no I'm a good mom and have raised her well so don't no where this has come form. She talks to the teachers like rubbish and is defiant in everyday and refuses to do anything She's told. I've tried being reasonable with her and trying to get to the root of it just says she hates school no real explanation. Have punished her currently has no phone then moans it isn't fair and she'll go her dad's, he's useless let's her do as she pleases with no support at all. I'm at my wits end I don't no what to do, she said she feels angry all the time and dnt like her life is tht just the hormones? Or is she depressed? I honestly dnt no what to do and just thought may get some friendly advice back or even from some who have been in this position before. Thank you

If you think she may be depressed I would take her to the GP as they should listen.

When you say that she's always found school a bit difficult, what were her issues in Primary School?

The thing is I generally don't feel like she's depressed when she's at home she seems less stressed I'd happy to do school work and get on with things, everything gets higehtend once I mentioned school and the lessons
Primary school was the same she found it hard to stay in the lessons and concentrate for the duration of the day so at times they would take her out now being a secondary it's a different kettle of fish at a larger scale and feel she's not coping well with it at all. The school just suspends her and haven't really put any support plan in place there way of dealing with it I'd take everything of her and that'll make her go the lessons but I don't feel that'd going to work either. I'm wondering if she's struggling with her hormonal change aswell with I'm going to have a talk with her and suggest going to the GP about. The teachers are like she has to go to lessons I'm like I understand this and I'm trying everything I can with both soft and tough approaches but doesn't seem to asking any difference what so ever she just crys and tells me she hates it

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