Being naughty with anyone but me

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So my daughter is 5, year one. I've just started a job and she is now being picked up from school by my aunty until I finish work.

Issue is, she is behaving badly when she isn't with me. Doing things she wouldn't do if she was with me, kicking etc having meltdowns its so strange because shes such a sweet girl when shes with me, it's like shes a different person.

It's always been just me and my daughter, her dad has never been involved at all and I understand the transition may be difficult at the start. I've sat down with my daughter and discussed her feelings with her and she just says she wants to be with me and doesnt like smells and certain things. ive explained she cant be acting out and i want her to be the girl i know she truly is. I need this job, and I want my daughter to behave as well as she does with me, with everybody else.

i cant focus at work because im worried when im not with her. its only from 3:15 until 5pm

im praying its just a phase and issue with change and that it will get better and to not give up but im finding what her aunty is telling me sges doing really difficult to handle

please help

Difficult isn't it when you have to work. Have you explained that she won't get to be with you by being naughty? You have to work and tell her about something nice you'll do when you're together?

That's what I've said. I'm just really hoping it's just a transition and she will get used to things I'm worried I'm doing something wrong

I don't think you are. You have to work and it's good for her to see that you do.

Maybe get her a toy or book to help her desk with her emotions and I know it's an old book but have a look at something like What Do People Do All Day? it's an attractive book kids of that age as there is so much going on in each page and it should hopefully open up conversations about what you both do when you're not together and what she wants to do when she's older.

Thank you so much for the recommendation! Great idea and she loves to read

It's good that she likes reading.

You probably want to go straight home after picking her up but see if your local library has a late night you could go to one a week as something nice to do together.

Just plan a few things that she'll look forward to with you.