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4 year old excluded from nursery - techniques needed

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XJ15 · 21/11/2024 09:43

Hello,

for the last year we’ve had a battle of my daughters behaviour being unpredictable. At her school nursery she would swear, spit, hit and not listen up until July when school finished. (We are a non swearing household mostly apart from odd slip up although I think picked up from grandparents just putting it out there)

Fast forward to September we thought wow different child, listening was better and all the bad behaviours had stopped.

the last two weeks she’s started hitting again to the point she’s now excluded for the rest of the week.

I’ve asked her everyday for 2 weeks why does she hit and hurt her friends and teachers she said cos she’s angry cos she wants to play.

she goes in at 11am which is 20 mins before lunch so she’s basically forced to sit down and eat for 1 hour when I get it, she wants to play first as hasn’t played all morning.

I’ve suggested and awaiting an answer from the school if I take my lunch break at my work (wfh) 10-11 and take her to the park for an hour before to get playtime in and energy burning so she’ll build an appetite

until she behaves they won’t increase her hours but I need some techniques to get through to her to tell a teacher / walk away when she’s feeling angry. I’ve taught her breathing but obviously in the moment of a 4 year old she doesn’t do it unless told.

once the hitting stops we can focus on her attention span which is basically 0 (awaiting OT appt)

any techniques would be appreciated I’ll try anything

OP posts:
TTCJJB · 21/11/2024 10:17

What is she doing prior to drop of at 11?

Could you look at a change of hours?

XJ15 · 21/11/2024 10:30

TTCJJB · 21/11/2024 10:17

What is she doing prior to drop of at 11?

Could you look at a change of hours?

She used to do 8.30 start but they reduced to 11am start as they thought it would help. I work from home so it’s just TV and playing with her dolls house etc / dress up. I get it’s not ideal but that’s why I’ve suggested to work I’ll work 9-10 and take lunch 10-11 so I can take her to the park to burn off the energy before she starts at 11

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TinyMouseTheatre · 21/11/2024 11:08

Alternatively can she start at 8.30 and come home at lunchtime?

She's going to find it difficult going into a busy classroom when she's probably hungry.

Have they suggested anything to help her or have they said about asking their SENCO to have observe her?

XJ15 · 21/11/2024 12:07

Hi all, the hours at the moment are the best case scenario we have tried both AM and PM and she was doing better PM. I think if she got playtime in before lunch might be better but not up to me. My main question is what techniques could be easily used by a 4 year old from experience because we’re trying all the Senco things and no one can pinpoint what’s going on with my child

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TinyMouseTheatre · 21/11/2024 18:11

Ok so SENCO are already involved? What things gave they suggested so far?

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