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Recommend a book for dealing with 4 year olds please!

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amidaiwish · 28/04/2008 08:46

DD1 is 4.2, very bright, very independent and frankly thinks that she is in charge of the place. As they say "she needs school!"

i have been away for the weekend and dh found her hard to deal with... i think he treats her as an adult too much, gives her concessions but then expects her to give in in other areas and it doesn't seem to work like that!

anyway, he said last night that with DD2 (2.5) he feels he knows how to handle her, knows what he's doing but is at a bit of a loss with DD1 and asked me to get him a book. We both read supernanny and found it great for basic advice on behaviour (consistency, time with them, etc...) when they were younger.

so, wise mumsnetters, any good books you would recommend for 4-5 year olds?!

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LadyPenelope · 28/04/2008 10:02

How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk ... it's more focused on 5 + I think, but since your dd is bright and independent it might be good for her. I've just re-read it to remind myself for my DD who is 7 and find bits quite useful - it's focused on how to get cooperation. It's not much good for my DS who is 3 though.

Tommy · 28/04/2008 10:09

would secind "How to talk"... I have lent my copy to someone and need it back (will have to try and remember who! )

amidaiwish · 28/04/2008 11:58

thank you!
will get it this afternoon....

anyone else?

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amidaiwish · 28/04/2008 12:09

ok, now i am confused... which one is it??

amazon

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LaundryFairy · 28/04/2008 12:09

Another vote for "How to talk" from me.

My DS sounds very like your DD - conventional techniques (like "do as I say or it's the naughty step for you!")that everyone told me I should be using on a 4 year old just didn't cut it with him -

I found "How to talk" so much better for a kid that had good verbal skills early on.

But I think that you need to look for something that reinforces your own natural parenting intincts and then read up for some advice. It will never work for you if the advice seems to go against what feels right for you.

LaundryFairy · 28/04/2008 12:11

The book that we are talking about is the one at the top of the amazon page you linked to.

blueshoes · 28/04/2008 12:59

I agree about 'How to Talk ..."

Another book that is quite handy is Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen. I think it suits dhs in particular.

amidaiwish · 28/04/2008 17:46

Great! Thanks all, will get both.

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