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Is there a reason to worry about a 'very good' baby?

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 06:56

Seem to remember something about 'good' babies possibly being a sign of something not quite right - was it autism? I don't know but I sometimes worry about ds2, as he really is very placid and not at all like ds1 was.
Rarely cries...good natured...nothing else that stands out, he is only 11 months, but I am being neurotic at the moment.
Sorry if this sounds ridiculous. He is probably fine.

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NatalieJane · 28/04/2008 06:59

If it is any help, both of mine were what some people would call perfect babies, never ever cried, DS1 didn't sleep very well at night, but DS2 has been a dream, both fed well, very happy to just sit and look around the room, etc. Eldest is 6 years, youngest only 16 months but no signs from either of them of anything untoward going on.

I hope you do find nothing to worry about

schneebly · 28/04/2008 07:00

He sounds lovely Is he a sociable baby? Does he smile and make eye contact? It doesn't sound like you hvae anything to worry about.

schneebly · 28/04/2008 07:00

Oh and my DS1 was a very 'good' baby too and he is just fine!

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 07:03

Thanks...yes sociable, a bit slow, looks at me sometimes like 'who are you?' but usually twigs I'm mummy
He babbles a bit, not much. Sings as well, so hearing must be OK?

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cyberseraphim · 28/04/2008 07:14

Does he usually turn his head if you call his name? Does he usually make eye contact with you before agitating to get something like a toy or a drink? 11 months is young but if he can do the above, he's developing normally

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 07:17

He does look at me and make eye contact, but when I call his name he rarely responds. He is 'busy' exploring things I guess...perhaps he just objects to his name though
Nobody else likes it!

I wondered about the fact he doesn't look round though. I keep trying it out, calling him from across the room and he just ignores me. But he started singing really young, in tune with his cot mobile, so he can't have hearing problems surely? Unless it was just random coincidence.

He hasn't had his 8 month check which is partly why I am worried. I wonder if they would agree to see him for a check now.

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Meandmyjoe · 28/04/2008 07:59

How is he at reaching out for things and other motor skills? Is he crawling? Does he look at you when he babbles? Does he point at things and seem inquisitive?

I really wouldn't worry though, he is very very young! Just enjoy the fact that you have a good baby . Mine never stops whinging I have actually wondered if there was something developmetally wrong with him for the exact opposite reasons as you! I think mummies are just programmed to worry! Try and enjoy him being good before the terribly 2s set in!

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 08:04

Oh thanks, I guess we all worry don't we
I feel guilty cos my friend's baby has some problems and I feel like it isn't fair that mine is Ok. Which is not a reason to look for problems!

He does crawl, he reaches out, he is just so laid back he is nearly horizontal.

I might take hiom to have his hearing etc tested...no idea how normal he is as Ds1 was walking at 9/10 months, he was a bit odd!

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2point4kids · 28/04/2008 08:05

My DS was an absolute angel as a baby.
He is now 2.6 and a complete ball of energy! He is a little terror sometimes... nothing wrong with hin whatsoever, he is just making up for being so peaceful when he was little I think!
Enjoy the peace while you can

Meandmyjoe · 28/04/2008 08:09

You lucky thing Fllight, seriously I envy you! I'm hoping my ds will chill out a bit when he's mobile. I take it your ds1 was not an angel baby then?? They all have different personalities though, my sister was a horrendous, whingey, screamy baby but a gorgeous easy toddler and child. My brother was so so so laid back and would just lay in his pram or on his play mat looking around. (Don't want to scare you but he morphed into a horrendous toddler!)

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 08:19

AArrghh! Thanks for that!!
Yes I foresee ridiculous unreasonable behaviour ahead...it would be odd to have a child that stayed easy, wouldn't it!!

They are all different...yes, Ds1 was tricky. he still is at almost 5. One of these children that destroys everything. I knew I would have a child like that. Things getting broken really upsets me and so I just knew iyswim

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WowOoo · 28/04/2008 08:26

Sounds like you are lucky to me! Try not to worry about it and be thankful at least one will be sensible, slow and placid!

Last night, when moving something I didn't want ds to break, I dropped it and smashed it. Had to laugh really (after swearing alot).

Fillyjonk · 28/04/2008 08:35

flight, my ds was a bit like this, but esp he didn't know his name tl about 13 months or so, we were slightly worried.

he's 4 now and fine...

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 08:38

How is little lad today Filly? Hope he has been OK over the weekend.

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Fillyjonk · 28/04/2008 08:43

he seems FINE flight

am not sure what to do really.

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 08:46

No, I can see why...I mean you'd think they would want to investigate further if it wasn't providing a reason, but sadly I wonder if the NHS does anything nowadays without being pushed a bit.
And of course you don't want to push without knowing there is something definitely wrong.

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 08:47

I'm glad he seems Ok though

Did you see what people said on the other thread about having it done while he was asleep?

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Fillyjonk · 28/04/2008 08:49

I did, I think, will go back and check

we're going to ave to go private though, this is becoming clear, and that is going to be £££ . And we SO don't have £££.

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 08:56

Oh gawd. What a nightmare. I often consider working for some company that provides free healthcare. Just for the healthcare y'know
Wish I could think of something more helpful.

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yurt1 · 28/04/2008 09:13

Babies who go on to develop autism often seem to be either very very passive or the total opposite (extremes), although I suspect that's anecdotal.

DS1 was a very passive smiley happy baby- remarkably so, but ds2 (not ASD) was too- although he used to object more if I was out of the room.

TBH 11 months is a little early to tell and you can drive yourself mad seeing thing that aren't there. If you're concerned check out pointing at 18 months (pointing to share interests and following a point). How does he learn? ASD ds1 had to learn everything hand over hand when he was little (didn't realise at the time but that indicated an inability to imitate).

I've provided some links on here (bottom 2 entries) which are good.

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Fllight · 28/04/2008 09:16

Thanks so much, Yurt. I will have a good read. There are loads of interesting links there.

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