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6yo Rage & Meltdowns

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ConsternationStation · 09/11/2024 19:36

I suspect that my 6yo DS had ADHD but we are currently waiting for him to be assessed. At school he struggles to focus and wants to move from task to task quickly, but otherwise isn't having too many issues there. At home it is another matter.

His behaviour is very challenging. He goes into massive rages at the slightest inconvenience or perceived slight. He'll slam doors, scream, shout, hit and kick. It isn't just a standard sort of meltdown or tantrum but can literally go on for an hour, several times a day. It's absolutely exhausting and it's proving really difficult for us as a family to deal with.

We try to stay as calm as possible (I won't lie, we've lost our temper a few times after it's gone on for ages but we do apologise), talk about our feelings, deep breaths and all that sort of stuff. He refuses to listen at all at first and just screams and shouts but when we finally do get through to him, he apologises. And means it, I think. But it doesn't take much to set him off again and we're back at square one.

It's incredibly frustrating as when he's in a good mood he is the sweetest little boy.

Does anyone have any sort of advice or help that they can recommend because we are really at our wit's end.

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PolaroidPrincess · 10/11/2024 07:36

Poor lad. To have those many meltdowns he's clearly not coping.

Does he have an ECHP for school and what does it include?

I don't know if you've already read it but some people find The Explosive Child a useful book.

I always recommend doing this simple progress checker as it's pretty good at spotting if they need any support with communication Flowers

ConsternationStation · 10/11/2024 09:23

@PolaroidPrincess there's no such thing as ECHP in Scotland and besides he isn't having issues at school. His teacher isn't concerned.

I think I'm going to have to add The Explosive Child to my TBR.

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PolaroidPrincess · 10/11/2024 09:34

Sorry I had t realised that you were in Scotland. Do you have anything similar to an ECHP?

He might appear ok in school, but do you think he could be masking and that you're seeing the emotional fall out from that at home?

How did he do on the progress checker?

ConsternationStation · 10/11/2024 11:03

@PolaroidPrincess I don't think there is an equivalent. I am sure he is masking at school, I just mean it hasn't been flagged by the school at all. I'm just feeling it all at home!

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