How to help my kind but strong-willed child adapt to other kids

[Bananas1982]

I’m looking for some advice. I have a bright, strong-willed daughter who struggles to adapt to doing whatever the other child wants to do.
I’ve explained the taking-it-in turns thing, and offering the other person to go first, but her need to lead activities is causing her friendships to suffer.
Recently her best friends mum has asked her daughter not to play with mine at school anymore, this is absolutely heartbreaking for my daughter, but I get it, probably she feels it’s important for her daughter to experience other friends, and not having to follow my daughter’s lead.
My daughter is struggling with making new friends for the same reason; she’s bad at following their lead. She says she doesn’t want to do activities that they are doing. I’ve explained that sometimes it’s just about doing it with the other person rather than having to love every activity.
How can I help my daughter adjust to other kids, and go a bit more with the flow?
Thank you!

Have you spoken to her Teacher and raised your concerns about your DD's friendships @Bananas1982? If so, what have they said?

I'd agree with speaking to her teacher – school may be able to support.

I'd also look up some books on friendship. I'm guessing she's quite young, so I'd probably be looking for stories that include an element of friends having a disagreement but working through it. Then you can talk about the story, including why does she think X happened, how does she think Y was feeling, and so on.

Maybe also a bit of deliberate modelling of compromise to her? You want X for dinner and I want Y, let's see if we can think of a meal that has them both. If you've got a partner, let her hear you discussing weekend plans, say, and planning things out so that everyone gets some of what they want.