My DS 7 is quite emotional. At present struggling with listening and following instructions. Nothing is ever his fault, he is quite capable but a bit lazy leaving things at school losing things and just not really being bothered or taking responsibility.
Tonight him and his sister were playing with something it was late and we were winding down. I asked them to stop as it was the type of ‘game’ that results in a row. They didn’t stop. It escalated and he hit his sister. I told him to go and calm down he shouted ‘no’ and hit again. I was now annoyed and told him again to move he shouted no again. I did raise my voice and he did move away from her.
i spoke to his sister and explained that the situation escalated after being told to stop the game. She acknowledged this and apologised.
He then lost it hugely. Shouting how to nobody loves him, he’s terrible, his dad (we don’t live together) tells him his sister is his favourite, his dad hits him. I don’t think this is true, there’s lots in his DF parenting I disagree with but I don’t believe he hits him. It seemed like he was trying to deflect from himself and try and turn the situation on to somebody else but I would not trust his DF if he made similar accusations against me. How do I address this? Both finding a way to calm down and the tendency to try and blame others.