Hello all,
Not too sure what I am after here.. some advice or perhaps some reassurance that it gets better ? Sorry if it’s long..
I am a first time mum and my DS is 2 years and 4 months. He is such a happy little boy and incredibly switched on. He is not talking at all apart from a few words (when he feels like saying them) such as “ready” “daddy” “no” “uh oh” “bye” and he also nods his head as a sign of “yes”. He understands what we say or ask perfectly well.
We go to playgroup 3 times a week and he attends private nursery a full day once a week.
He does not like to share with the other children at all, I get that it’s an age thing but with DS it’s like it’s on another level. For example, he’ll build blocks with me and if another child even attempts to join in, he will either hit them, push them or get really annoyed and throw the blocks out of anger. When he does this, I will tell him no and express the “kind hands” phrase. If he carries on, he then goes on the ‘thinking chair’ to calm down for a couple of minutes. I then explain to him that we do not hit and we must play nicely.
He doesn’t play with other children he would prefer to play on his own or with me.
He does get over excited a lot and he’s a bit boisterous and can play rough with me or DH. So we do use the phrase “kind hands” as a way of getting him to play a little more gentler.
I think a lot of it is frustration given the fact he can’t communicate fully. Health visitor has referred us to speech and behaviour therapist so waiting for the phonecall.
I just don’t want him to be unkind to other children and play nicely with them as I don’t plan on having anymore children myself so I don’t want him to be lonely and be able to integrate when the time comes for him to go to school. I also want him to be able to communicate as I think a lot can change if he can.
Appreciate any feedback given!