3yo DD excluded by two of her friends

[RedRobyn2021]

She seems fine about it and talked about the experience very matter of factly, the two girls who she really likes both told her they didn't want to play with her only each other

My DD then went and played with another little girl

I know my feelings are about me and I'm trying hard not to project them on to her as she's fine

How do I deal with this?

Do I do nothing? Do I talk to the mums who I'm friends with?

Is this normal behaviour for this age group and I'm just projecting my own feelings on the situation by feeling so upset and rejected on her behalf

It's brought up all these fears of what if I'm doing a bad job as a mum and what if she isn't liked by other children because I've done something wrong

Yes I'm probably over thinking it, but I'm pregnant and emotional, this is my first child and I just want her to be happy with herself

Please can someone give me some advice on how to deal with my own feelings and if I should do anything and if this is normal?

They are toddlers, this is all normal and you are overthinking the way their minds work at this age.

You need to work through this before school starts because it happens all the time

Totally normal. My 3.5 yr old grandson is now at preschool and every day he tells me his best friend is xxx or that YYY isn't his friend and wouldn't play with him. Then the next day it changes again.

They are very little, it's perfectly normal... and you have years of it ahead! Honestly you just need to be bright and breezy 'never mind I'm sure you can play with xx tomorrow' or whatever and don't panic :)

I remember how murderous I felt when my own first born was rejected (or that's how it felt) or left out, at preschool, or in reception... but DD1 didn't :) I just had to learn that it was ok.

And yes it's partly your hormones, but I have to admit even after four children of my own, I still hate it when DGS is (momentarily) sad ... we do because we love them and want their world to be perfect and that's normal!

Thanks @Sonolanona

I think you should praise her for going and finding someone else to play with when her friends weren't being very kind - that was a very sensible thing to do and shows great initiative and resilience. She could easily have just followed the other girls around, she could have got very upset, she could have tried to get between them, she could have given one of them a good push, but nope, she just went and found a different friend to play with - sounds like you're doing a great job OP.