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coco111 · 29/10/2024 21:17

My son has just turnt 5. From the age of 2 he has been stimming. At first I kind of turnt a blind eye to it until one day his nursery called me in and said they noticed it. Until he was 4 I kind of thought it was a phase until he started school nursery and they called me in and mentioned it. He was then referred for an assessment. They said they weren't concerned and discharged him. Since then it has got progressively worse. He is constantly stimming. Today for instance I would say he was stimming the whole day. He will make this buzzing noise and clap his hands whilst pacing up and down. I've spoken to him about it and all he said is he likes to do it . It's like he goes in a trance and just can't stop. He is now in reception at school and the SEN teacher there has requested for another assessment but told me it could take years. I don't know what do I'm massively struggling with it. His speech is amazing and he is very intelligent but the stimming has just became out of control. He also has terrible melt downs like terrible where he can become quite violent. I have 2 other children. My partner works full time and doesn't seem to understand how hard I'm finding it at the moment. I just don't know how to help him and deal with it.

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PolaroidPrincess · 30/10/2024 07:23

It does sound like an assessment could be the right way to go. If he's violent at home it could be because he's finding school overwhelming. Are they doing anything like the Zones of Regulation with him?

Has the SENCO suggested anything else like getting an ECHP?

Asking for an Occupational Therapy assessment might help him too.

As he's been referred for an assessment already, I'd start to jot down his behaviour and how it's affecting him and the family. We needed quite a bit of evidence for the assessment process.

And I know you say that he speaks well but I always think it's worth doing this quick progress checker from Speech & Language UK. If it says he needs some support then I'd ask for a referral for a hearing test and Speech & Language Therapy.

If you're finding things hard at home are you eligible for a Home Start Volunteer? The book The Explosive Child is often recommended too Flowers

Doglady1764 · 30/10/2024 14:16

I totally understand this is really difficult. I’d send him for another assessment as it’s getting worse. It might take years but it’s worth getting him help as early as you can.

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