Our mornings at home and nights seem to be really difficult and little we do can improve things. I’m always taking the kids out just to not make noise in the house and upset neighbours. There’s no harmony.
DD6 is so angry a lot of the time and has huge sibling rivalry. She used to melt down until a few months ago, now she just shouts at me mostly, really loudly. I don’t shout back or raise my voice. I’ve learned that nothing good comes of a battle, so just try and placate. She gets so jealous of DD4 and some of her friends, she has had one incident at school recently too (verbal, her fault). She has a really loud house voice and sings and does like opera sounds a lot. We walk on egg shells. She refuses to do anything alone, she refuses to dress herself or be in a room alone (like bathroom to brush her teeth).
BUT
Overall she’s great at school and really lovely one on one. No issues at all when it’s just her and I.
DD4 is a bit naughty and cheeky, but it doesn’t feel paralysing. She just tantrums when tired, which is still too often for my liking but bearable. Ultimately, she listens and it doesn’t go overboard.
We do consequences, have read all the talk to your kids so, explosive child etc.
i don’t feel I can do anything, including cooking or cleaning. It is all mounting up all the time because, basically, they can’t be left alone for five minutes because of the insane level of fighting: