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Tips and Advice - Toddler Coping Badly With Newborn Arrival

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Help23 · 23/10/2024 22:23

My toddler (3 in early November) can be a bit of a handful sometimes but he's a very loving and relatively well behaved boy. He perhaps doesn't always brush his teeth, or sit in a pram on demand but I don't think he does anything unusual for a boy toddler.

However, since I had a newborn in early October he's been really really difficult. Crying all morning getting ready. Screaming all the way to the nursery, for ten minutes until my husband leaves him there. He sometimes gets frustrated and hits me or has a meltdown.

Now the newborn is two weeks old I tried to pick him up from nursery, take them both home together and do bedtime on my own but it was a disaster. The toddler was doing well but ended up just screaming at the top of the steps and hit me with his toy, which I confiscated as a result but then that resulted in a meltdown.

It was scary because I just couldn't control him or give full attention to either of them when they then both ended up crying. Has anyone been through similar experiences? Are there any tips on how to help the toddler feel okay? He's very loving towards the baby, cares for him when he cries and kisses his feet even but he genuinely seems to hate me at the moment and it's really breaking my heart. I know he doesn't and might just be natural regression but I hope there's anything I can do or read about which might help

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PolaroidPrincess · 24/10/2024 07:40

I would say that it all sounds pretty normal. He's just had his little world turned upside down. I found bedtimes easier if the LO was in a sling or hardly ever happened asleep in their Moses Basket.

Kellymom had some tips for juggling a Newborn and a Toddler here.

Congratulations too WinkFlowers

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