DS is almost 5 and in his 8th week after starting reception this September. They use the colour card system for behaviour and to begin with DS was telling me he was getting lots of yellow cards. After speaking to his teacher she kind of said oh no we wouldn't be giving them out that often so I imagine he was just making bits up here and there. She herself told me he got a red card for hitting another boy early on in the term when they couldn't go out to play as it was raining heavily and they were messing about (teacher said they know what the boys can be like stuck in) DS said sorry instantly and it was all sorted. Yesterday his teacher has come out and asked to speak to me at the end again because he had been given another red card - she said he had been spitting and then pinched another child... neither are things I've ever seen him do previously. I spoke to DS and he said he'd been blowing raspberries not spitting and he'd seen another little boy pinch who'd also been told off and he'd copied. Explained to him we shouldn't do these things and he said and looked sorry and told me he's going to listen and be very good now and try his best.
After all that background info my concern is that his teacher said DS is fine at work and play and he's exceptionally bright and ahead of his peers but the time he struggles is carpet time when they have to sit and wait about a bit. That's when he does these silly things and seemingly struggles so she said he went to speak to the SENCO teacher yesterday and they're going to get him a fidget toy to try and help him focus and they'll let me know how it goes. Now I'm working myself up as to why he's been sent to SENCO? Is this because they have concerns there might be something underlying or do they do this for other reasons? He's a bright boy, full of energy, strong willed, good as gold for the most part with us (although he's has the usually small child moans and groans as well) so I've not really had any concerns myself. Obviously want to do what is best for my son and am going to speak to his teacher again when I pick him up but wondered if anyone has any similar experience and wether children are sent to speak to SENCO for every day things or if it's only because they have concerns? I'm thinking ADHD etc?
Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated! Thanks