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5yo very self critical

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Pinkballoons55 · 19/10/2024 21:11

My 5yo boy is so self critical.

He is always saying things like "I'm rubbish at <task>" "<other child> is better at that than me" "I can't do it" etc

If he's doing anything - whether is be reading/writing, or building lego, drawing a picture etc, and makes a mistake, he reacts so strongly and emotionally, e.g. screwing up his drawing, crying, lashing out. If he struggles to read a book he will try and rip the pages. All while shouting about how bad he is at whatever he is doing and essentially giving up. And it's so hard to get him to calm down afterwards.

I don't understand where it's coming from and it's really getting me down. Has anyone else experienced this?? I obviously tell him he's doing we'll at anything he tries, give lots of positive encouragement when he tries something new etc, but it doesn't seem to be working so am really hoping someone else has some advice on what else I could try!

(He's not diagnosed SEN though is sensitive and does struggle with managing emotions generally. Seems to be getting on fine at school though they have also recognised he gives up quickly if he's finding something difficult)

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RareTiger · 21/10/2024 14:51

My boy has control issues (autism) he struggles with emotions too, we are currently trying to teach him about emotions and how to react to them, for us it things like
Yes your sister has taken you toy but don't hit her tell mummy and daddy and take some deep breaths.

It dosent work for fully work for us yet but the breathing thing is helping there's lots of aids to help with the breathing exercises

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